Table of contents:
- What is the effect of playing cellphones on relationships?
- Why is using cellphones too often can damage your love affair?
- Change these bad habits!
- How do you reduce cellphone use when you are with a partner?
Major disputes between spouses in ancient times may have resulted from money, sex, or children. However, it seems these days cellphone (HP) can shift all three things. Yes, HP has indeed become an important part of everyday life. Some even think that HP more important than a wallet. Even though cellphones are important for communication, playing cellphones excessively can damage your love affair with your partner, you know.
What is the effect of playing cellphones on relationships?
Reported on the page Psychology Today, Brigham Young University conducted a study to see how technology can interfere with your relationships with other people. There were 143 women who were involved as respondents in this study.
The results suggest that too close a relationship between humans and technological devices is associated with more serious conflicts, and relationship satisfaction with partners is lower. Even further, human relations with technological devices can interfere with psychological health.
Other studies have also shown similar results. Research by Professor James Robert Ph.D. and his colleagues were published in Computers in Human Behavior in 2016.
Professor James and his colleagues involved 453 adults in the United States (US) to see phubbing partner (Pphubbing) on a relationship with a partner. Pphubbing here is a response to the extent to which a person will be distracted by a cellphone when he is with a partner.
The result states that the higher the pphubbing level of a partner, the satisfaction of a relationship that is established will decrease.
Roberts stated that low relationship satisfaction will have a further impact on the low level of life satisfaction. Make no mistake, in the end, a low level of life satisfaction will increase the level of more severe depression.
From the two studies, it can be concluded that being too focused on playing cellphones when you are with your partner can reduce the quality of your relationship. In fact, the moment with your partner should be a fun and satisfying moment.
Why is using cellphones too often can damage your love affair?
Try to imagine when you were with your partner. Your partner then prefers to focus in front of the screen of his cellphone rather than listening to you. Psychologically, this condition describes a rejection.
No matter the slightest form of rejection accepted by humans, the response in the brain will be the same when someone is experiencing physical pain.
This form of rejection can be degraded mood, makes people feel disrespected, creates feelings of anger or hatred. If this happens continuously, don't be surprised if the quality of your relationship with your partner will decrease.
Change these bad habits!
- Always try to put your cellphone in a place that can be seen clearly when you are with your partner, for example at the dining table.
- Always hold your cellphone in your hand when you are with your partner.
- Always glance at the cellphone screen when talking to your partner.
- If there is a pause in a conversation, usually check the cellphone as soon as possible.
How do you reduce cellphone use when you are with a partner?
Place the HP You somewhere out of your reach, for example, in the bag, not in the outer pocket. If you need to check something or reply to an important message on your cellphone, give an explanation to your partner first, then check your cellphone.
