Table of contents:
- 1. You start to be unhappy when you are with him
- 2. You can't be yourself when you're with him
- 3. Get used to disappointing each other
- 4. Your partner blames you when he is sad
- 5. Already lazy about physical contact
- What you should do if you feel unhappy in the relationship
- Self reflection
- Follow your heart and logic
- Talk to your partner
The vibrations in a relationship between a human being can not predict the future, so can you and your partner. Saturated, bored, angry, disappointed is indeed a pebble in itself towards happiness together. These feelings if allowed to continue will create a burden for you, and will have an impact on you and your surroundings. Watch for signs that your relationship with your partner is unhappy.
1. You start to be unhappy when you are with him
Sometimes in everyday life, you will experience good day and bad day, so it is with the relationship you live in. In normal, romantic relationships, you will think your partner is everything. Everything that is meant is when you can share your complaints, grievances, joys, and joys with your partner. This feeling will happen if you are truly happy with your partner.
"What if I feel the opposite way?"
Okay, first of all believe your feelings that this is not just saturation. Assure your feelings that by being with him, talking to him, doing daily activities with your partner, you feel that you are not finding happiness at all. This point will explain that you are not happy with your partner.
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2. You can't be yourself when you're with him
Do you remember when you first told your partner everything about you? That's the moment you realize you want him to accept you as you are once you open up. However, if you feel uncomfortable showing your partner how you are now, then that is a sign that you are unhappy with who you are during the relationship. If you change yourself instead of what you want and don't recognize who you are anymore, then you should seek your own happiness, without your partner.
3. Get used to disappointing each other
If you often disappoint each other in your relationship, this is a clear sign that your relationship is just not happy. Disappointment is a psychic reaction which cannot be controlled mentally. However, if the relationship is used to disappointing each other, this can result in the erosion of your psychiatric condition which will be damaged.
This will have both short and long term effects. Your trust will decrease, you will have your own stigma about how a relationship works, and allow you to easily disappoint others outside of your relationship.
4. Your partner blames you when he is sad
This condition occurs beyond your control. When your partner starts to always blame you for not being able to accept his flaws or understand him, this is the time for you and your partner to talk to each other. Your partner's happiness is not entirely your responsibility. If this is always the fuss and complaints of your partner, it seems like you should think twice about your relationship.
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5. Already lazy about physical contact
Recipes for a fun relationship can sometimes require a physical touch between you and your partner. For new couples, this invites enthusiasm with the aim of exploring each other's partners. But if the physical desire is no longer present, what should we do?
Like the previous explanation, this is probably a saturation point for you in the pair. However, if this situation is going on for a long time, you and your partner should realize that the attraction and need for physical contact in your relationship are clearly disappearing. You and your partner need to talk to solve further relationship happiness.
What you should do if you feel unhappy in the relationship
Self reflection
This is important, for anyone who feels unhappy with himself or with others, self-reflection must be done. Why? Take a deep look at yourself, have you been comfortable and happy with your daily life, activities, and relationship expectations so far? If the answer is not yet, it's a good idea to look back at what went wrong and which ones should be maintained regarding your relationship with your partner. Self-reflection is done to anticipate if it turns out that you are the one who makes you unhappy with your partner.
Follow your heart and logic
If the above signs of unhappiness are answered, usually your logic and feelings will conflict with each other. Feelings of happiness and discomfort in the relationship will arise through your feelings, then followed by logic when you think hard about why your relationship is not going well and cause unhappiness for you and your partner.
Talk to your partner
Your partner will also gradually notice changes in which you start to be unhappy. You will unconsciously behave differently from when you first fell in love with him. The good is, you both talk to each other to find a way out, find a point of error why you or your partner can be unhappy in the relationship you are living. If, indeed, from the conversation you do not find a way out, you and your partner really have to separate, because of a good relationship, it is not based on unhappiness.
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