Table of contents:
- 1. All introverts are shy - and all shy people are introverts
- 2. Introverts are proud "ansos"
- 3. Introverts are not good leaders or great talkers
- 4. Introverts are more intelligent or creative than extroverts
- 5. Introverts can be cured
Although one third of the world's total population is introverted, introversion is perhaps one of the most misunderstood personality characteristics.
Introverts are often labeled as aloof, awkward, hate crowds and crowds, and are referred to as "ansos". This problem stems from a difference that is too simple but contrasts between extroversion and introversion, creating a stigma for both.
"In fact, the difference between these two personality characteristics is much more complex than just being shy and being," according to Sophia Dembling, author. The Introvert's Way: Living a Quiet Life in a Noisy World, quoted from The Huffington Post.
The difference between introverts and extroverts is rooted in Jungian psychology, which views extroverts as naturally oriented towards the outside world, whereas introverts focus more on an inward orientation.
Perhaps the most appropriate description of introversion departs from Jung's idea that introverts derive their energy from internal stimulation, from solitude and inner calm, and not from external forces. Meanwhile, extroverts get energy from social situations through interactions with people.
Below are 5 wrong assumptions about introverts - along with the reasons that support them.
1. All introverts are shy - and all shy people are introverts
Wrong. We are often confused with the terms "shy" and "introvert" which are used interchangeably - but in reality, these two traits are completely different.
Shyness is a behavioral, psychological characteristic that comes from the learning process; fear of negative judgments, the influence of discomfort and nervousness in social situations that necessitate involvement in interactions. Meanwhile, introversion is an innate psychological trait; someone who prefers calm and minimal environmental stimulation.
There are many extroverts who are shy and introverts who are confident. Many introverts aren't actually shy; they may feel confident and easy to get along with those around them, but simply put, they just need more time outs to balance out the energy used up during interactions.
As with shy extroverts, they are comfortable and easy to get along with people, but may be a little withdrawn and uncomfortable in groups.
Introversion is motivation; how much you want and need to be involved in a particular social interaction.
2. Introverts are proud "ansos"
Although introverts generally need - and enjoy - solitude more than extroverts, the assumption that introverts are "ansos" or antisocial people is simply not true. They just enjoy social interactions in a different way from the average person.
Many mislabels are aimed at introverts - clumsy and judgmental, for example - because they tend to sit still so they tend to appear arrogant or indifferent. In fact, introverts don't feel compelled to speak if they don't have to. Sometimes, they prefer to pay attention to those around them or be lost in thoughts of their own. Maybe, other people perceive this attitude as boring, but according to introverts, observing and paying attention to these people is fun.
Introverts tend to choose to interact face-to-face with only one person at a time. Rather than being arrogant or cold, introverts generally like other people, but value time together, and value quality over quantity of relationships. He prefers to devote all his energy and attention to 1-2 very close friends rather than making a big gang or adding many new friends whose status is just casual acquaintances. They are great listeners and are very good at maintaining friendly relationships over the long term.
3. Introverts are not good leaders or great talkers
Bil Gates, Abraham Lincoln, Gandhi, and many other important world figures, including introverts. Many introverts enjoy and do very well leading people, public speaking, and being the center of attention.
When being a public speaker, introverts focus on being fully prepared and thinking all the aspects into detail before starting to do so, making them good and eloquent speakers.
Furthermore, in a 2012 study by Corinne Bendersky and Neha Shah published in the journal Academy of Management, introverts do very well on group projects.
Social skills and introversion are not actually related. The characteristics of a person's introversion can actually contribute to success, because introverts are usually more thorough and organized in conducting research, reading, planning, and other tasks that require concentration and calm.
4. Introverts are more intelligent or creative than extroverts
Many of the world's art workers and scientists - Albert Einstein, Marcel Proust, and Charles Darwin, for example - are thought to be introverts. According to Jonathan Rauch, author of The Atlantic, introverts are seen as a group of people who are "smarter, more self-reflective, more independent, more balanced, civilized, and more sensitive in their head and heart". But in reality, it's important to understand that your introverted traits don't automatically make you smarter or more innovative from birth. To achieve this, it will still require persistent effort and effort.
It is possible that there are many extroverts out there who are very intelligent and creative; Usually, bright ideas occur when someone is in the personal zone and in a more reflective mindset, or a mindset like introverts.
Without extroverts and introverts, nothing can be real. On the one hand, there are groups of people who think through all the details and on the other hand there are groups of people who are willing and have the ability to make these thoughts a reality.
5. Introverts can be cured
If you are an introvert, it may be common for you to feel that other people don't understand you and your behavior is often misunderstood. Introverted children often receive criticism from their surroundings to be more active and talk more at school, or try to mingle with other peers.
Unlike shyness and anti-social behavior, which are psychological characteristics influenced by external factors, introversion is a biological condition caused by an over-sensitivity to dopamine; that is, when introverts receive too much external stimulation such as socializing, their energy (physically and mentally) will be drained.
You can't change the characteristics of you on this one, like fixing your weight or a haircut. Some of these things are intrinsic to you.
