Table of contents:
- Understand men by examining their thoughts
- 1. Try to understand commitment issues
- 2. Heart-to-heart support when there is a problem
- 3. Balancing control in the relationship
Women are often said to be difficult to predict the way of their thoughts. In fact, not only women, men are sometimes difficult to understand. So, what is the best way to understand men?
Understand men by examining their thoughts
Before trying to understand men, it might be helpful to first identify what men actually think often.
Understanding what men think is one of the keys to lasting in a relationship. If you are not trying to understand your partner's head, it will certainly be difficult to come to an agreement when faced with a problem.
Some of the things that will be discussed below are thoughts that are common to most men, which may be helpful in finding ways to understand your partner.
1. Try to understand commitment issues
In a relationship, there are men who dare not commit further and are afraid of marriage for various reasons.
Now, the first way to understand men is to know and try to understand what they think about commitment and marriage.
Most men under the age of 30 tend to prefer to "play around" first before finally making a choice on one partner.
According to these men, marriage and family life can only be carried out after they are considered economically stable. As a result, when they find women who may be good in their eyes, but want to start a family soon, the relationship can run aground because of their fear of commitment.
Apart from thinking about establishment, commitment issues also usually arise from those with family backgrounds who have experienced divorce, especially those caused by their own fathers.
Try to understand a man with this one thought. Don't push too hard without knowing what caused him to do this.
2. Heart-to-heart support when there is a problem
Even though they often appear tough, men actually need emotional support, just like women do. In fact, they have a slightly stronger emotional reaction than women.
However, before realizing how they feel, men tend to close themselves off from other people so as not to appear vulnerable. This is because the stereotype of men who show feelings means that they are not male.
As a result, when they feel sad, they will show feelings of anger because anger symbolizes strength, so that sometimes people misunderstand.
For example, when men break up, they will show more of their sadness by drinking or things that endanger their lives. However, that doesn't mean they don't feel sad.
They perform actions that are considered "male" to fill the void they feel.
That is why, in order for you to better understand men, the way you can do is not to judge them. Stay close and try to dig into their thoughts even if they do not show that they are in vulnerability.
3. Balancing control in the relationship
Did you know that most men feel more competent when they see a woman or her partner happy because of her?
However, it is not uncommon for female partners who like to take over the helm of the relationship, without balancing the roles of their male partners.
It makes men feel useless and leaves the women to do it all. Try to understand your man in a way that allows him enough space to play an important role in the relationship.
Balance roles by sharing tasks. For example, a husband makes a living to buy a house, while you can still work to pay for children's education.
Basically, there is only one key to understanding men well, namely having good communication.
Understanding what a man, or even a woman's, is going to take a lot more effort. That's why you need to communicate in order to know what the two of you want.
