Being separated from his mother since he was a toddler could be the cause of an aggressive child

The environment greatly influences the development of your little one's behavior, especially the core family environment. Mothers and dads are the primary guidelines children will see and learn. Yes, that's why children should grow up in a harmonious and ideal family environment. The reason is, the disharmony of a family will have an impact on the formation of children's behavior.

Especially if your little one has separated from one of his parents, especially the mother. So, there are many bad effects that can affect your little one's behavior, one of which makes children aggressive. So, why did this happen?

According to research, separation from the mother makes the child aggressive

Usually, children under five years of age (toddlers) tend to be close to the mother. Then the communication and bond with his mother is stronger. This is because almost all care and care from birth is carried out by the mother. Some studies even state that a strong bond between the child and the mother is formed when the child is still in the womb.

Therefore, the separation between the child and the mother will form negative behavior in the child. Moreover, if your little one has been separated from his mother since he was under 5 years old for any reason (for example, divorce). A study published in the journal Attachment and Human Development states that separation from the mother will make the child aggressive, especially if it occurs when the child is 5 years old or a toddler.

This, of course, was associated with the very important role of mother at that time. So, when your little one is separated from his mother, he will experience psychological trauma because he loses the figure of the mother he needs. The child will be irritable, unable to control his emotions, and more aggressive.

All aggressive children's behaviors and traits occur because the child feels they are not getting the love, care and attention they should get from the mother. Even though it is possible that the attention of other families, for example, father or siblings, is still devoted to the little one, but still the figure of a mother is missing from her side.

Not only mothers, the environment also determines children's behavior

There have been many studies that prove that children who grow and develop in a family environment that is not harmonious are more likely to have behavioral disorders. Children will be very quiet or even vice versa, very rebellious when they get older.

This condition is due to the fact that since childhood, the child has been faced with family problems, especially when it involves both parents who should be a guide for him. So, when there is a serious enough problem in the family, it will certainly disturb the mental development of the child.

Perhaps, when the child was young, the impact of this incident was not felt very much. However, when he has grown and matured, his aggressive nature will make it difficult for him to socialize and make friends. Therefore, you should know the exact cause why the child is aggressive and then overcome the cause.

In the end, it is not just the mother who determines the child's behavior. Even children who are raised with their mothers may have aggressive behavior if the environment in which the child grows up is not conducive. So, what should be a priority in childcare is an environment full of love and concern.

If your child exhibits negative or even aggressive behavior, don't immediately scold, yell at, or be punished. Instead, what needs to be done is to guide the child gently, give the understanding that the behavior is not good, then train the child to express his emotions in a healthier way.