Table of contents:
- Asexuality is not a sexual disorder
- Asexuality does not mean that there is something wrong with the body
- Being in a relationship with an asexual
- 1. Make sure your partner knows that you are sexual
- 2. Make sure you and your partner can accept each other
- 3. Make sure that you and your partner love each other
When you hear the word asexual, you might think that it describes someone who has never had any experiences related to sexuality before. In fact, aksexual is a sexual orientation, just like heterosexuality or homosexuality. The difference is that a person who is asexual means that he has neither sexual desire nor sexual attraction to other people. Well, for more details, see the full explanation below.
Asexuality is not a sexual disorder
Sexuality can be seen in all aspects of our culture: from advertisements to films to traditions and religions. It may seem difficult for most of you to imagine how sexuality can play no role, no matter how small, in someone's life.
However, just because asexuality is uncommon doesn't mean it's a sexual disorder or mental illness. You may have thought that asexual is a sexual disorder that needs to be cured.
However, unfortunately, your thinking is not quite right, because this condition cannot be said to be a sexual disease or disorder that must be treated. It is inappropriate to label asexuality a disease because it seems as if it makes it difficult for those who have it.
In fact, those who identify as asexual are not at all disturbed by their own asexuality. By definition, a mental disorder or illness must be something that causes suffering, disability, or poses a health risk to the person who has it.
Then what is asexual? Asexual is a sexual orientation as well as heterosexual or homosexual. It's just that people who have this sexual orientation have no attraction to other people, either of the opposite sex or of the same sex.
Even though there are people who have an attraction to other people, usually, people who are asexual choose not to pass on their attraction to other people. That is, the feelings they have are just ordinary feelings of attraction, not the desire to have sexual intercourse.
Asexuality does not mean that there is something wrong with the body
People who feel that they are asexual do not mean they have low sex drive, because these two things are not the same. When you identify yourself as asexual, you have no interest in sexual activity, but you can.
Some asexuals are disgusted by the idea of "sex" and choose not to engage in any form of sex for life, but this does not apply to the whole. A person who is asexual can still date, engage in sexual relations, masturbate, fall in love, get married, or have children.
There are many reasons why an asexual person might do the above without requiring the presence of sexual attraction. Experiencing sexual arousal or orgasm is also possible for asexual people.
This is of course different from people who have low sexual desire, because at that time you have difficulty feeling aroused by other people. In fact, you have attraction to other people and want to have sex with that person.
Even so, people who claim to be asexual may have certain health conditions that cause them to also have difficulty arousing other people.
It means,
Being in a relationship with an asexual
However, as stated in an article published on the University of Illinois Springfield website, asexual does not mean being afraid or unable to have a romantic relationship with other people. Desire for sex and for love or affection are two different things.
Some asexuals can have romantic relationships with other people. However, if you as an asexual want to be in a relationship or get married to someone else, there are a few things that you need to make sure and discuss, so that you don't cause problems for both parties in the future.
Here are some things you need to discuss with your partner if you want to have a serious relationship with them:
1. Make sure your partner knows that you are sexual
Before you decide to take a relationship with another person to a more serious level, you should discuss your sexual identity or orientation with your partner. This is of course important for your partner to know so as not to surprise him in the future.
From there, you and your partner can discuss whether the relationship that is currently going on can continue or not. The reason is, it could be that your partner wants different things, so, for the common good, separation may be the only way.
However, if your partner can accept your sexual orientation, without submitting certain terms or conditions, keep the relationship.
2. Make sure you and your partner can accept each other
If you decide to marry asexual, there are a few things you need to keep in mind. For one thing, the fact that your partner may have sexual desires that are much different from the desires you have. This means that your partner may want to have sexual relations even though you don't want to, and so on.
If it is not discussed and the best solution is sought, this can become a big problem in the future. Therefore, try to understand the partner's needs, and also convey how you are with your partner in order to find the best path for both parties.
3. Make sure that you and your partner love each other
To be married to an asexual may not be easy, either for you or for your partner. Therefore, make sure that you and your partner truly love each other and are committed to living and maintaining the integrity of this marriage as best as possible.
The reason is, without feelings of great love and high commitment, you and your partner may regret the decision to go through this difficult relationship if you face problems at a later date. So from that, make sure beforehand before deciding to have a further relationship with your partner.
