Table of contents:
- Is it normal for me to deliberately live alone and not look for a partner?
- Single life can still be happy
- It's not that married couples can't live happily
Being in a society that worships the importance of partnering like a romantic drama film, does not rule out the possibility of making a few people feel nervous. The reason is, people who are single still get negative labels - "So don't be bitchy if you become a person, so no one wants to be close!" - or even get a look of pity, "Maybe just haven't met your soul mate yet …" In fact, they are deliberately living alone. It's not that you don't want to find a partner because it's difficult to move on, commitment issues, minus personality, high standards, or other cliché reasons. Purely because he wanted to be single. However, is this normal?
Is it normal for me to deliberately live alone and not look for a partner?
There is nothing wrong with your personal decisions. In essence, you are the one who best understands and understands your own needs. If you feel comfortable being single and can accept who you are, why not? Don't mind the hints that come out of those around you.
In fact, quoting Shape, a recent study published in the journal Social Psychological & Personality Science concluded that what determines a person's happiness is not their relationship status but rather your purpose in life.
This conclusion was obtained after gathering more than 4,000 students and interviewing them one by one. Researchers then divided these students into two groups: those who eagerly wanted to commit to a romantic relationship (whether dating or married) and those who were eager to avoid conflict and drama.
The head of the study, Yuthika Girme, Ph.D., a psychology professor at the University of Auckland in New Zealand, revealed that naturally people tend to lean more to one side. Girme also believes that one cannot force themselves to turn to the other side if that is not what they want.
From these findings, the researchers added that whichever you aim for doesn't really matter, as long as you stay true to what you want.
Single life can still be happy
Until now, people who are purposely single continue to get a negative stigma. In fact, the results of various studies indicate that living alone is not always synonymous with sadness or loneliness. Single people can lead happy and fulfilling lives.
In fact, other recent studies have found that people who choose to be single on purpose can live happier and more prosperous lives than those who are married.
Committing to being single means that you can focus on yourself, your personal aspirations and goals, while still having and maintaining other important relationships - such as relationships with family, friends, and other social settings.
Most of the respondents in this study who admitted that they deliberately live single have pleasant friends and warm family support. So, they feel there is no reason not to enjoy life happily.
Not only that, regardless of whether they live alone or with other people, single people are also known to tend to be more active in participating in community groups and public activities. Conversely, when someone decides to live together or get married, they tend not to think about the outside world, even when they don't have children.
Well, this is what might make some people deliberately not look for a partner and choose to live single. It's as simple as just because they really enjoy it.
It's not that married couples can't live happily
Even so, experts don't claim being single is better than marriage. The thing that matters is not what other people say or think about your life. However, it is a question of whether you can find places, spaces, and people that fit with who you really are that fully support you to live your own version of the best life possible.
The research, being presented at the American Psychological Association's 124th Annual Convention, is expected to get single people to stop worrying about their situation because they don't find a partner. The reason is, people who are afraid of not getting married are usually in a hurry to choose their partner. As a result, most of their marriages ended in divorce.
So, the choice to live alone and be single is not a curse, but a personal wish. You alone can and have the right to decide what really makes you the happiest and most comfortable. Even if you decide to find a partner in the end, that decision is solely made by you for your own happiness. Not on coercion, encouragement, and bad insinuations from those around you.
