Table of contents:
- Signs that your partner wants to break up
- 1. Profile photo changed
- 2. Do not care to solve problems
- 3. So wishy-washy and unclear
- 4. More busy with cell phones
- 5. Feel single and more busy with new activities
- 6. Escape the chatter of commitments and the future
- How to deal with it?
Not all relationships end happily. Regardless of who and what motivates the intention to end the relationship that has been established, in general one party will show some "symptoms" of wanting to break up that the other may never be aware of.
Signs that your partner wants to break up
1. Profile photo changed
Of course there is nothing wrong with changing profile photos on social media. After all, those are the personal accounts and private rights of each person. However, Donna Arp Weitzman, dating counselor and author of the book Sex and the Siren: Tales of the Later Dater, thinks that a photo really is worth a thousand words.
"If in the early days of your relationship, he uploaded a photo of the two of you on his Facebook profile and then replaced it with one of his selfies, especially with a sexy or attractive appearance, he may be preparing to look for another relationship," explained Weitzman. from Live Strong.
2. Do not care to solve problems
A healthy dating relationship is characterized by a willingness and concern for both parties to work together to solve problems. But if one partner just allows the conflict to drag on without trying to find a middle ground, or is just ignorant when you try to solve the problem, this is a clear sign that he's basically giving up.
"Couples who want to end rather than save a relationship will show indifference and annoying stubbornness, and tend to blame the other person (or you) for addressing a problem," says psychologist and relationship expert Sene Hicks. "This tends to make all of your communication efforts feel wasted."
3. So wishy-washy and unclear
Having a relationship together does not mean that everything has to be done alone. You certainly have your own activities and scope of friendship, as well as him.
However, if you feel like you are feeling more and more adrift, seconded, and frequently wonder about your true status in his eyes, this could be a sign that separation is in sight.
If you never seem to be able to find out where your partner is or it's taking longer than usual to text or call back, then don't ignore this behavior. “You can't reach your partner by phone or text over and over again? This may be a sign of a couple seeking freedom from the relationship, ”says relationship coach and romance expert Eddie Corbano. "This may seem trivial, but is often ignored as a warning sign."
4. More busy with cell phones
Once again, it doesn't hurt to check your cellphone occasionally when you're together. Maybe there is an emergency office or family matter that needs to be discussed. However, being too focused on playing cellphones when with a partner indirectly describes a rejection. Especially if he doesn't take his attention from the screen at all while you're talking.
This behavior can indicate that he is bored with you, and it is in this "subtle way" that he refuses to interact with you. If this happens continuously, don't be surprised if the quality of your relationship with your partner will decrease.
5. Feel single and more busy with new activities
One of the classic signs a couple wants to break up with is deliberately prioritizing or spending time doing “single activities,” for example going out to hang out with their friends. The question for you at this time is whether your partner involves you with these new activities? Is it just inviting or actually getting you to participate? If he's only excited about going out alone, this may be a sign that he is trying to break up.
"A lot of people are afraid of being alone," says Joan Bennet, a relationship expert. "So, when someone is already thinking about breaking up with their partner, they start to slowly cross back into their circle of friends to experience being single again."
By reconnecting with their friends and gathering in places where single people go, they are indirectly establishing themselves for the next chapter in their lives.
6. Escape the chatter of commitments and the future
Another major warning sign that your partner wants to end a relationship is to avoid talking about the two of your plans and future goals. For example, by diverting the topic to trivial matters or not continue at all, or even "excused" yourself for various reasons - sudden meetings, phone calls from parents, to visits to the emergency workshop.
Corbano added, "Your partner may not want to make a firm commitment either." It doesn't have to be a big commitment like marriage, but a lighter, long-term commitment like the six-month vacation plan that was once discussed with gusto. Never mind ordering accommodation tickets, even talking about the exact date is reluctant.
"This is a signal that he does not plan to be in touch any longer and does not place you on a vision and mission for his future," said Corbano.
How to deal with it?
Fighting with a partner is common. For those of you who are on the verge of separating, you can give each other space to cool off and calm down. This is needed by every partner so that they can think clearly again and not get carried away by emotions.
Many couples who experience problems and want to break up actually do not have sufficient reason to separate. Yes, most breakups are based on emotions and high egos. You have to find sufficient real and compelling reasons if you want to leave your relationship without regrets in the future.
So, it's a good idea to communicate what each other feels about the status of the relationship, then solve the problem with a cool head with your partner. Again, communication is the key to a healthy relationship.
If after all you've both calmed down and are still determined to feel like breaking up, then that's okay if that's the best decision.
Start enjoying your life with friends and family. Filling time with sports or doing hobbies that you enjoy, this will help you recover from pain and keep your body and mind healthy.