Table of contents:
- Why do married couples rarely have sex?
- 1. Too tired
- 2. Get stuck in a routine
- 3. Hypnotized advanced gadgets
- 4. There is a thorn in the household
- 5. Ignorant about appearance
Not always infrequently having sex indicates that there are serious problems lurking in your household. Often times, the lack of frequency of sexual intercourse in the household is replaced by a strong sense of love and affection. Of course this is a good thing, and must be maintained.
But that doesn't mean you have to settle for a bad season in your bedroom. Moreover, various studies report that married couples who have sex at least once a week show the most satisfaction in the household.
If the two of you are having sex less and less, perhaps not at all, there may be other factors at play.
Why do married couples rarely have sex?
Here are five of the most common reasons a husband and wife can turn off sex - and how to deal with them.
1. Too tired
Waking up, going between school children, stuck in traffic, meeting here and there, going home, taking care of the house and children - just imagining it makes you tired first. And when it's time for bed, sex is the last thing you think (and want) right now.
Some of these physical and mental stressors can cause a decreased response to hormones that affect both your sex drive. So that in the end, even the thought of having sex can feel like a chorus work. The solution? Try having sex in the morning, says Philip A. Rutter, PhD., A psychologist from Philadelphia, quoted from Everyday Health. Psstt… gargle first, OK!
2. Get stuck in a routine
It's perfectly normal for you and your partner to experience boredom with each other, especially if the two of you have lived together for years. If you no longer feel like he excites you like before, maybe this is because you are both caught up in the same sexual routine.
Change stale sex habits and rekindle your sex drive by considering doing new things, like trying sex toys, BDSM roleplay or other sex fetishes, or simply changing new positions.
3. Hypnotized advanced gadgets
Come on, admit it, which of you keeps staring at your smartphone screen before going to bed, whether it's to check your work email, check football game scores, or go to the FB timeline or Twitter? If technology invades the intimacy of your bedroom every night, it can trigger lovemaking sessions to become less frequent.
Not only would it be difficult for one partner to initiate the foreplay to head to the main event while the other was distracted by texts from bosses or soap operas on TV, but technology also replaced intimate moments. If you want to keep making love, change the atmosphere of your bedroom for only two purposes - sleep and sex.
4. There is a thorn in the household
Even small fights can eliminate the possibility of having sex. So tell your partner what is bothering you before you hang out tonight.
5. Ignorant about appearance
The appearance at home that is too casual - only wearing a negligee, shorts, messy hair - can threaten the sex life of you and your partner. When women and men don't all out showing the best version of himself, sex drive can decline. In fact, a recent survey found that half of women let insecurities about their weight and appearance follow their way into the bedroom, and some even chose to avoid having sex altogether.
What can you do about this? If your partner feels down and looks unhappy, give praise. For example, whisper to him what you think is the sexiest part of his body (even if it's just a mole on the cheek). If you are the recipient of the compliment, it's okay to occasionally allow yourself to be flooded with sweet words - and let that change your mindset for evaluating yourself.
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