Table of contents:
- The characteristics of a controlling girlfriend
- 1. Keep you away from those closest to you
- 2. Criticize this that
- 3. Do not respect your privacy time
- 4. Lack of respect for opinions
- 5. Make you doubt
- Should we end this relationship?
- 1. Not be yourself
- 2. Not feeling loved
Many people think that their partner cares about them, so they are willing to follow everything their boyfriends say. However, sometimes most of them do not realize that caring is actually a form of the attitude of the boyfriend who likes to control. So, so as not to get confused, here are various characteristics and signs that your boyfriend likes to control and control your life.
The characteristics of a controlling girlfriend
1. Keep you away from those closest to you
Most likely this did not just happen. First of all, your partner may often complain that you spend more time with friends and family.
Over time, the excuses will add to the opinion that he doesn't like your circle of friends. In the end, the boyfriend tries to get you to stay away from friends.
2. Criticize this that
Criticism is indeed good for building and becoming a better person. However, if you get too much criticism, it is certainly not good and can reduce your self-confidence.
The bossy boyfriend will usually criticize a lot of things, from the way you dress, the way you walk, even when you eat and drink. The little things he will criticize and make you follow all his wishes.
Your boyfriend may not think his criticism is causing big trouble. However, how petty the criticism is, if it is said too often, it can make you feel inferior and not accepted for what it is.
3. Do not respect your privacy time
Another way to weaken your "voice" in the relationship is to intrude on your privacy time. Arranging boyfriends tend to keep you from taking time out for yourself.
Your partner usually thinks that you don't want to spend time with him, so he doesn't like you having time alone. In fact, everyone actually needs time for himself.
4. Lack of respect for opinions
You may begin to notice that your partner interrupts conversations or doesn't even think of you at all. Most likely this is because your partner wants to dominate your conversation.
Also, you don't remember the last time they asked a question about your story. This is because your partner also likes to arrange conversation topics between the two of you. Try to remember when the two of you were fighting, whether your partner took advice or didn't listen to it at all.
5. Make you doubt
You have a dream to become a graphic designer, but your partner will convince you that the quality is far from good. Or you used to be very excited about going to school abroad, your boyfriend actually dispelled the dream by convincing you that you couldn't.
The instilling of this mindset is due to your bossy boyfriend and will make you feel insecure. This is one of the ways that you can become more dependent on them, so that your boyfriend becomes more dominant in the relationship.
Should we end this relationship?
In fact, if we can take the wheel in this relationship and talk about it together, this relationship might be saved. However, you experience the things below, maybe it is time to end the relationship.
1. Not be yourself
Too often set up to be forced to change yourself to please your partner. Starting from a drastic change in clothing tastes due to the control of his girlfriend, to changing his personality to be more insecure. Be honest with yourself, do you like this version of you like this?
We all have our own shortcomings and dark sides. However, if your controlling boyfriend brings out the worst in us, it will be difficult to enjoy this relationship in the long run.
2. Not feeling loved
The advantage of a relationship is feeling loved. There are times when the situation gets out of hand and makes you very sad. That's where our girlfriends are supposed to support us. Not criticizing and blaming us for what happened. It is time to let them go and find someone who can truly understand our strengths.
Ending a relationship is very difficult. However, if you can be honest and put your own happiness first, isn't that a lot of fun. The burdens that have been borne because your boyfriend likes to control, can be released and you can be yourself completely.
