Table of contents:
- Why do husbands need to discuss menstruation with their wives?
- 1. You know when PMS symptoms appear
- 2. You can know which symptoms are normal, which ones to watch out for
- 3. You know when to have sex if you want to get pregnant
- 4. Increase intimacy and mutual trust
Until now, most women still feel uncomfortable talking about menstruation because of taboo reasons. Not only with male friends or partners, but also with fellow women - whether it's their own mother, siblings, or friends. In fact, menstruation is actually the human body's natural reaction like sweating or urinating. If there is a problem with your body, you certainly don't hesitate to talk about it, right? Now, this reluctance to talk about menstruation has made many women prefer to be silent in their suffering.
Perhaps the male readers are busy wondering, “Then, what does this have to do with us? After all, menstruation, right, is a woman's business "- although it is not uncommon for us to be the target of their" tantrum ". Eits wait a minute.
While menstruation can be a slightly awkward topic, being outspoken with your partner about menstruation is not without its benefits. For example, being open about your period can make it easier for you and your partner to discuss topics related to sex and other reproductive health, as well as reinforce mutual trust in relationships.
Why do husbands need to discuss menstruation with their wives?
Here are four reasons why couples (whether boyfriend or husband) should be open to discussing menstruation as a daily conversation topic.
1. You know when PMS symptoms appear
A woman's menstrual cycle lasts an average of 28 days. Ovulation (the period when an egg is released from the ovary) occurs on day 14 of this cycle. Menstruation occurs on day 28. PMS symptoms can start around day 14 and last up to seven days after the start of menstruation. PMS pain is real pain, perhaps like the pain a man complains about when his groin keeps getting hit by a relentless ball kick.
Menstruation for most women, is not a pleasant experience. During PMS, some women tend to be more moody and temperamental before their menstruation. Others may tire more quickly and continue to complain of excruciating pain in their stomach or back.
By knowing when your partner has her period and what symptoms usually appear, you can be prepared to mobilize reinforcements to ease her pain. You can also find out what her likes and dislikes are doing during this time so that she can feel more comfortable about her daily routine during her period.
2. You can know which symptoms are normal, which ones to watch out for
PMS is a very common condition. Nearly 80 percent of women report experiencing mild to moderate PMS symptoms. On the other hand, 20 to 32 percent of women experience symptoms that are severe and affect their daily activities. The severity of symptoms can vary by individual and month, although they usually go away once menstruation starts.
If menstruation is a common topic of conversation in your relationship, your partner can tell you what symptoms they regularly subscribe to and how to deal with them. So that as soon as you notice a pattern that is different from usual, or the symptoms don't get better, you can advise him to consult a doctor.
However, there are also many symptoms of severe PMS that the owner of the body may not be aware of. Be aware if your partner has had drastic mood swings leading to symptoms of depression or anxiety disorder, or is thinking about hurting himself. The worst effects of STDs can be this problem, and your partner should get help right away.
Likewise, menstrual periods that are long lasting, always have excruciating pain, or heavy bleeding occurs in one cycle. Losing large amounts of blood can cause anemia (low blood pressure), which can make you tired and lethargic. It is important to discuss these symptoms with a doctor.
3. You know when to have sex if you want to get pregnant
If you and your partner are trying to get pregnant, then you must understand very well the difficulty of matching the right schedule for sex. Getting pregnant is a matter of time. Knowing when your partner normally has her period can give you clues about her fertile period.
In general, a woman's fertile period is during ovulation (when the ovaries release an egg), which is about 12 to 14 days before menstruation begins. Most women have a menstrual cycle for 28 days, from the first day of menstruation until the first day of menstruation in the following month. A woman's fertile period is between 10 to 17 days. The five days before ovulation is the most fertile period for women.
Starting from these calculations, you and your partner can plan when the most appropriate time to have sex. In theory, you can increase your chances of getting pregnant successfully if you have sex once every 1-2 days a month. Especially if you don't know exactly when your partner's ovulation occurred. If you can estimate the day your partner will ovulate, then you should have sex once a day, 3-4 days before and on the D-day of ovulation. But menstrual periods and fertile periods can vary for each woman, so the two of you must first discuss to find out when your most fertile time is.
4. Increase intimacy and mutual trust
The degree to which you are willing to make sacrifices for the sake of convenience (for example, going to the pharmacy to buy menstrual pain medication or new pads) can indicate that you are a supportive partner - both in good times and in bad times. Plus, if they see that you don't panic when something "embarrassing" happens to them, this will give them more assurance that you are the right person and can count on to help with something even potentially more embarrassing the next time.
Even though she may feel uncomfortable sharing her menstrual experiences with other people - having her open to share about each other's puberty experiences can be a great way to get to know each other on a deeper level. Sharing puberty experiences that you and your partner went through in their time can provide insight into worries, childhood, and precious moments in each other's lives.
Starting these conversations can be difficult, but if you and your partner have the courage to make menstruation a topic of everyday conversation, this might make it easier for you to work out your relationship.