Table of contents:
- Not all love problems should be shared with other people
- The topic of love issues that should not be confidant about
- 1. Problems that bring down your spouse's or your self-esteem
- 2. Financial problems
- 3. Bed problems
When your relationship with your boyfriend is in shock, you may not be able to resist telling other people to find a solution. Sometimes, confiding in friends or family members is also a last resort when you can no longer bear it alone. However, you should not confide in your love problems carelessly, even if they are the people you trust the most in the world.
There are some love issues that you shouldn't tell other people about. Why?
Not all love problems should be shared with other people
Talking about the love problems between you and your partner to family or friends will not always make the relationship immediately happy again. Especially if you ask for advice too often without thinking. One-wrong, this can backfire for you.
Because, most of what you tell about the story is just a description of the emotions and a version of the story from one side only, that is your side. You also rarely tell about the ugliness or mistakes you made, right? So like it or not, your confidant friends will actually think that your partner is a bad person and always makes you miserable. As a result, the environment where you confide in a bad picture of your partner.
Also, your confidant can interfere in your troubles for a long time. The more they are consulted and know about your love problems, the more likely they will have a share, a role and a voice in your relationship.
It is different when you ask for your opinion on matters of love, and you have provided consideration beforehand. For example, when you have a fight with your partner, you explain in general terms and ask your friends for your opinion. For example, you can ask for your opinion by giving a choice of suggestions "What? I apologize in advance, okay? After that I explain to him carefully ”, or“ What I no need to say anything, okay? Let him be aware of his own behavior annoying?”.
It is better to give a choice of advice than to have to ask outright what to do if there is a problem with your partner. Don't confide in friends or family too often. Consultation to relationship counseling or to a psychologist is another great way you can do to improve your relationship.
The topic of love issues that should not be confidant about
1. Problems that bring down your spouse's or your self-esteem
Before confiding in friends, think carefully, what problems are you going to share about that can bring down your partner's self-esteem or not? Avoid talking about issues such as your partner's less assertive decisions, problems caused by your partner's family, or love problems because of bringing up the past.
The good thing is, don't confide in these things even to your closest friends. Most confide in the problem of love, which only makes the partner's self-esteem fall in the eyes of your friends.
2. Financial problems
Financial matters, salary, and income, should only be kept tightly between you and your partner. Don't too often confide in happiness or confide in complaining to friends about financial problems in your relationship. Often confide in, what you do is considered ungrateful or even showing off, you know.
3. Bed problems
Tells stories about sexual relations in bed with close friends or genk beloved is always an interesting conversation Talking about your favorite sexual intercourse position or how satisfied you are in bed with a good partner does not need to be overbearing.
It's good to tell the general thing. Because surely not all of your friends are good at keeping your love affairs secret, right? You also don't want, do you, your life in bed be discussed outside and become the subject of other people's gossip?
