Table of contents:
- Why do people have a phobia of kissing?
- What symptoms do you usually show?
- Can kissing phobia be cured?
A kiss is often seen as a sign of love for a partner which is said to strengthen the harmony of a relationship. In fact, it is said that there are many benefits that can be obtained from kissing. Even so, it turns out that there are some people who have a phobia of kisses, you know. This condition is known as philemaphobia. How could that be? Indeed, what is the reason?
Why do people have a phobia of kissing?
It is normal to feel fear and anxiety because you are not used to kissing. You may be afraid of missteps and ending up partnering ilfee.
However, this is very normal and almost felt by people who are kissing for the first time. Usually, this fear will go away as you get better.
Uniquely, there are people who are really afraid of kissing, you know. In contrast to people who think that kissing is a pleasant experience, people who are phobic will argue the opposite, namely that there is a feeling of extreme fear that tends to make no sense.
The most basic reason for the phobia of kissing is the fear of passing germs from mouth to mouth. A person with philemaphobia would think that there are millions of bacteria that may be transferred during kissing, putting them at risk of developing disease later.
Not only that, sometimes a person who is phobic of kissing may feel disgust because he imagines that he will be in direct contact with his partner's saliva. The factor of fear of bad breath, either yourself or your partner, is another cause that can make someone experience a phobia of kisses.
Although it is rare, someone with philemaphobia also complains of a fear of touch in an intimate manner. For more severe cases, kissing phobia can come from bad experiences in the past. Or even have been a victim of rape, sexual violence, or sexual harassment before.
What symptoms do you usually show?
Symptoms for each sufferer of philemaphobia are not always the same, but can vary based on the level of fear they experience. Some of the characteristics that usually occur, such as:
- Irregular heartbeat
- Very fast breathing (hyperventilation)
- A strong desire to run away or hide when you feel the signs of kissing begin to appear
- Excessive sweating, such as after doing strenuous activity
- Sudden nausea
All of these signs and symptoms can directly affect philemaphobia. The reason is, not only makes the sufferer refuse to kiss, but also makes it difficult to find the right partner and establish a long-term relationship.
In fact, most people with philemaphobia realize that this fear of kissing tends to be strange and unreasonable. However, they may still find it difficult to control their feelings. As a result, it is not uncommon for someone who has a phobia of kisses to feel depressed by the "lack" they have.
Can kissing phobia be cured?
Those of you who have philemaphobia can breathe freely now because basically this phobia can be cured. With notes, you must first find out what is the main cause of this excessive fear.
If the phobia comes from previous experiences, it usually takes a lot of courage and practice until your fear is completely gone. However, in more severe cases, even if they are traumatic, you may need to do regular counseling with a therapist.
Later, the therapist will determine what kind of treatment according to the severity of your phobia. On the other hand, you can help relieve philemaphobia by diligently doing meditation, yoga, to tai chi. This activity is considered to be able to grow a person's self-confidence as well as reduce anxiety.
