Table of contents:
- Narcissists expect praise and find it difficult to accept criticism
- Why do narcissists hate seeing other people happy?
Many experts consider that narcissistic or narcissistic (NPD) is one of the three main characteristics of personality disorders. Narcissistic personality disorder is owned by 1% of the world's population. A person who has a narcissistic personality has such a big ego that they only care about themselves. Narcissists also yearn to be constantly admired by others. In addition, they also feel resentment when they see or hear that other people are happy - or more successful than they are. Why is that, huh?
Narcissists expect praise and find it difficult to accept criticism
People with narcissistic personalities are often described as arrogant, manipulative, and thirsty for praise.
Narcissism is often based on a very fragile self-esteem influenced by a fear of failure or a fear of showing weakness, and feelings of insecure (insecure; anxiety; restlessness) deep in the mind of one's inadequacy.
To cover insecurityIn this case, the narcissist displays a level of self-confidence that greatly exceeds the limits of a healthy self-confidence. This will foster the idea that he is the best and invincible, the most special, so that they feel very confident that they deserve to be admired and get special treatment from those around them.
However, because of their fragile self-esteem, narcissists easily feel belittled and cannot accept criticism, even constructive ones, so they will go to great lengths to bring down their opponent in order to outperform others.
All of these negative characteristics are seen consistently in his life, both in the work environment and in social relationships.
Why do narcissists hate seeing other people happy?
So why do narcissists hate seeing other people happy? Narcissism encourages jealousy and unhealthy competition so that narcissists lack a sense of empathy, aka caring and compassion for others. They may show remorse, compassion, or generosity, but only as a cover for getting plus points from society; do not want or fail to make a real change in his attitude.
That's why they can't feel the true and sincere happiness that comes from the heart. Thirst for recognition and praise from others will trigger jealousy and envy towards others, as well as believing that other people are jealous of him.
As a result, when they see other people happy or successful, the narcissist will feel disturbed and threatened by their existence and prestige because they feel that they are unable to achieve the same, or better, happiness as other people. In fact, they feel very confident that they deserve it. When they see other people achieving these things, narcissists feel jealousy as well as anger.
In addition, a narcissist's lack of empathy can lead to underestimating the attempts other people actually have made to get something. They actually think that the situation is unfair to him so that that person does not deserve happiness for any reason.
If other people are happy and continue to grow, their self-esteem will be threatened because they continue to compare themselves with that person. Even in extreme cases, people with narcissistic personalities can make all kinds of arbitrary attempts to bring you down, such as slandering and intimidating when they feel threatened. All these cheats he did to prove that he deserved to be recognized as superior.
On the other hand, when they see other people fail or fall down, the narcissist feels very happy because the situation supports the idea in his mind that he is a better person than those around him.
