Table of contents:
- The impact of judging others on yourself
- 1. Make the relationship more tenuous
- 2. Inhibits self-development
- 3. Tiring soul and mind
- 4. Fear of being yourself
Whether you realize it or not, judging other people can become a habit that can hurt the person's feelings. However, did you know that this habit also has a negative impact on yourself?
The impact of judging others on yourself
Criticizing and judging others without knowing what background makes them like that can actually have a bad effect on the critic. This also applies when you do it to someone you don't really know.
Here are some of the bad effects that can arise when you judge others.
1. Make the relationship more tenuous
One of the effects of judging others is that your relationship with the person being criticized can worsen.
If they find out that you judge them a lot, this habit can become a barrier to making day-to-day relationships.
It is likely that the person will stay away from you because they are afraid or because they cannot stand your criticism and judgment.
As a result, your relationship may not be as close as before. Not infrequently, this bad behavior also makes you lose friends or connections.
2. Inhibits self-development
Apart from making your relationships with others more tenuous, judging people also hinders your own development.
Usually, people who like to judge others are not aware that they are doing the same thing.
As the saying goes, the elephant in the eyelid is not visible, the ant at the end of the ocean is clearly visible. This means that the faults of others are very obvious while the faults of oneself are not visible.
As a result, you are more likely to see other people's mistakes in order to please yourself without realizing that you also need to improve.
Therefore, often judging others makes self-development hindered.
3. Tiring soul and mind
Spending too much time criticizing others can certainly tire you out. It may be fun for you at first. It's just that the fun will only last at the beginning.
Unconsciously, this habit can slowly drain energy. This is because you will keep wondering which side someone could criticize.
Therefore, try to see a better value in the side of someone you may not be aware of. Don't waste your energy judging others for just one mistake.
In addition to being tiring, judging other people and telling ugly stories can make you look bad to others.
If you continue to tell someone badly about someone else, it is not impossible that people who listen to feel disgusted.
4. Fear of being yourself
As reported from the page Psychology TodayCriticizing others also builds the principle that other people see life as you do.
You will assume that other people also judge what you do and think.
As a result, you become afraid to be yourself because everyone will judge each other in the end.
So, before other people reject you, you already reject yourself and become what you might think others want.
Judging others is not forbidden, but isn't it better to see a positive value in a person than just a bad character? That way, you can respect others and yourself.
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