The ideal age to marry psychologically, what age?

After a long debate, the Constitutional Court (MK) finally granted the lawsuit by a group of social organizations and institutions to raise the ideal age standard for marriage in Indonesia. Moreover, according to a number of studies, the age limit for marriage stated in the Marriage Law Number 1 of 1974 is actually not ideal. So, what should be the most ideal age for marriage, and what is the reason?

Is it true that the sooner you get married the better?

When viewed from the ideal age limit for marriage stipulated by law, new marriage is allowed if you are 19 years old for men and 16 years for women. It is not surprising that marriage at a young age has become a common sight in this country. In fact, it seems almost glorified. Ironically, adolescence is not the ideal age range for marriage.

Based on data from the National Population and Family Planning Board (BKKBN), many early marriages among adolescents in their late teens to early 20s occur for reasons of custom or pregnancy outside of marriage. The BKKBN also reports that more than 50 percent of early marriages end in divorce.

This is because many adolescents are not yet mature enough (in terms of maturity in the way of thinking to solve problems) and are less experienced in dealing with domestic conflicts, which are of course totally different from arguments during courtship.

Early marriage threatens the welfare of the child

The Women's Health Foundation (YKP) considers that young marriage has the potential to increase dropout rates and poverty due to deprivation of children's rights to grow and develop, gain education, and work.

Adolescents in general do not have stable finances and are not sure about their career and future. Not to mention that they still have to be faced with pressure from parents, school and / or college.

In addition, there is a fairly burdensome impact from child marriage on adolescent women's reproductive health problems. Marriage at a young age is known to increase the risk of miscarriage, infant mortality, cervical cancer, venereal disease, and mental disorders due to social pressure to assume adult responsibilities at a young age.

What is the ideal age to get married so that the marriage can last?

Many national legal aid agencies object to the underage standard of the marriage age in the Marriage Law. For the reasons above, YKP and the Children's Rights Monitoring Foundation (YPHA) had asked the Constitutional Court to raise the minimum age for marriage for women to 18 years.

This opinion is shared by a number of foreign studies. Statistical data from various studies suggest that you can wait a few years. Summarizing many different surveys and studies, the divorce rate can fall by up to 50 percent if you get married at the age of 25 and over compared to being married in your early 20s. The percentage of risk also decreases for every 1 year that you are willing to put off marriage.

Yes. A study published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationship in 2012 said that 25 years is the ideal age for marriage. Meanwhile, the US Census Bureau reported in 2013 that the ideal age to marry is 27 years old for women and 29 for men.

In general, it can be concluded thatthe best marriageable age is around 28-32 years.BKKBN itself assesses The ideal age for marriage for Indonesian women should be at least 21 years.

The older, the more mature

Experts believe that delaying marriage by several years can lead to more idealized, more established households and a lower risk of divorce.

There are many reasons why your mid-20s to early 30s are the ideal age for safe marriage. One of them is the maturity factor. Adults here are not only getting older, but also in terms of emotional intelligence and maturity of thought patterns.

In your mid-20s, you are already mature enough to really understand which love is blinded by lust and love based on sincerity. Because as a person grows older, they have spent quite a bit of time on an adventure to find their true selves and finally know for sure what they really want in life.

They also understand what rights and responsibilities they have in order to achieve their life goals. The more mature a person can also indicate that he has sufficient physical maturity and financial stability to support himself and other dependents.

The level of education also affects household permanence

Although maturity and financial levels play a major factor, the level of education is equally important. Delaying marriage until after receiving a bachelor's degree has been shown to lower the risk of divorce than less educated couples, according to a 2013 Family Relation study.

What needs to be understood, delaying marriage after completing college is not just to pursue a degree. Getting the highest education is the best way for you to open your horizons to the real world.

You will also meet more people with different characteristics to chat and brainstorm. Over time, these can shape your overall personality, life principles, and mindset.

When are you ready to get married, depends on each

However, of course the decision to get married cannot be based solely on survey results. There is no ideal age standard or time limit for dating that can guarantee marital happiness.

In the end, it is you who decide when the time is right for you to get married. Whether it's in their 20s, 30s, 40s, and so on. In fact, marriage and divorce are social phenomena that are difficult to measure with just numbers.

Nobody forbids getting married quickly. If you and your partner are both physically and spiritually ready and financially ready to marry young, of course there is no problem. But for others, it still doesn't hurt to carefully consider all the benefits and risks.

Are you really ready to cross the household ark, or are you just getting married for the sake of prestige and avoiding the boring question "When will you get married?"