How to have sex with your partner for the first time

For those of you who are preparing to have sex for the first time with your partner, nervousness may clutter your mind. The reason is, even though friends have told you or watched pornographic videos, making love in real life is of course different. From a friend's story or a pornographic movie, sex seems pretty easy. However, are you sure about how to have sex for the first time? If not, check out this complete guide before spending the first night.

How to have sex for the first time

There are various ways of having sex that you can try. But for starters, you and your partner can warm up (foreplay) by making love, caressing each other, touching, kissing, and stimulating each other's sexual organs.

If this is your first intimate relationship, you may want to start with the most common sex position, missionary. This position is done by the woman lying under the man. In order to penetrate, a woman needs to bend and spread her legs so that the man's body is between the woman's left and right legs. Then, slowly insert the erect penis into the wet vaginal opening. To find its location, try to explore the vagina before penetration.

Penetration shouldn't hurt. If it hurts, stop for a moment. You can try again more gently or extend the warm-up session until you are both quite excited. When the penetration is done and you both feel comfortable, move your hips until you find the rhythm that is most appropriate and enjoyable.

What should be prepared?

If you don't want to get pregnant yet, use a condom as a contraceptive. Condoms should be placed after the penis is erect, before penetration. This contraceptive is also useful for preventing the transmission of venereal diseases.

You and your partner also have to prepare mentally before having sex. If not sure with your partner or timing, do not push yourself. The reason is, sex with a relaxed feeling will help you both reach peak enjoyment.

What can I expect from sex the first time?

Sex for the first time may feel awkward or stressful. This is normal. You just need to get used to it. Also, keep in mind that sex doesn't always lead to orgasm, so there's no need to worry about not reaching climax.

The purpose of having sex is not just to get an orgasm or sexual satisfaction. Sex is also done to get to know your own body and your partner. However, it is easy to get your hopes up too high the first time you have sex. This is because pornographic media (films, videos, comics, etc.) often depict sex in a dramatic and exaggerated manner. In reality, sex is a process that needs training. Try to continue to learn the various ways of having sex that best suit you and your partner.

Is it sure that the vagina is bleeding?

Keep in mind, a woman's hymen doesn't always tear or bleed the first night. This does not indicate whether your partner is a virgin or not. The reason is, the hymen can be torn at any time without having sex. Many women also have a strong and thick hymen, so that penetration of the penis does not cause any damage or tearing.