Table of contents:
- Double standards are detrimental to victims of sexual violence
- Open clothes do not mean free sex invitations
- Sincerely similar to comments bullying
- What is the impact on a woman's mental state?
- Victim-blaming can be fatal
- Stop ninny victims of sexual violence!
Condescending comments like this sound familiar to your ears?
You may be wondering what makes this subject so worthy of being a topic of conversation. After all, what's wrong with making a little sarcastic comment? Moreover, we grew up in a society whose hobby is stripping other people's "disabilities" as justification for being the most holy. Wait a minute. The impact can be fatal, you know!
Double standards are detrimental to victims of sexual violence
We often try to teach others to uphold personal values and morals. Ironically, we are also in a society where female sexuality is traded. According to society's opinion, a woman who is sensual and sexy is the ideal type of woman.
However, if you meet these criteria, you will end up putting yourself at risk of being humiliated and judged. If a woman is considered "too sexy" and takes too much attention, she will be labeled as a woman who violates nature, is cheap, unclean, vulgar, even a prostitute.
On the other hand, the men who show off their abs sixpack masculine and having a "portfolio" of complete sexual adventures will be praised for its achievements. This is the essence of the double standard.
Adam is expected to desire and have sex without restriction, while women are only permitted to engage in sexual activity when it involves "true" love or legal marriage.
Open clothes do not mean free sex invitations
Instead of teaching them to instill respect in everyone, women's bodies are beaten flat as objects of lust.
When we see news about the rape that describes the details of the victim's clothes, some of us may automatically think, “It's wrong to walk alone so late in the night wearing that shirt? No wonder it was raped. " Almost everyone has said it, or at least it has occurred to them.
Law enforcement officials often use similar cornering arguments in processing cases of female violence.
This further confirms the conservative assumption that women are the only ones to be blamed for their own "fate". This also makes sexual violence more prevalent in society.
Reporting from Your Tango, research professor Raquel Bergen from St. Joseph University on violence against women revealed that people around them tend to be reluctant to help women who wear revealing clothes.
According to society, women who wear open clothes no longer have the same values and dignity as “polite” women in general so that they are no longer entitled to access related to protection of basic human rights, such as justice. It affects all women indiscriminately, from schoolchildren to adult women.
Sincerely similar to comments bullying
Women are expected to be the best version of themselves, but also continue to be cornered when they manifest this by starting to be sexually active, having beautiful body figures, or from a way of dressing that is not according to the "norm".
In other words, the sexist commentary culture teaches us to humiliate, insult, or demean women who want to be free to explore their identity. This includes certain ways of dressing and behavior as their self-expression.
This is actually the same as attempts to harass anyone in the aftermath of a case. It's no different than an act bullyingwhich could result in serious mental harm to a person.
What is the impact on a woman's mental state?
Have you ever heard the proverb "the pen is sharper than a sword" or "your mouth is your tiger"? Approximately that's the principle. If physical wounds can be healed, it will be a different story with the inner wounds received from the spicy mouths of netizens.
Women who are repeatedly subject to derogatory comments are often enveloped in guilt, shame, worthlessness, and hurt feelings so that these wounds can manifest into a whole new personality.
Women who are often in the aftermath of sexist ridicule often experience severe mental shocks that cause trauma to loss of self-confidence, self-isolation, eating disorders, trauma, self-hatred, depression or other mental illness that can be experienced even for life.
So, not infrequently many of the women are victims bullying hidden over time feeling that he deserves to be treated this way. In this case being hurt, humiliated, or even sexually exploited.
Victim-blaming can be fatal
Consequences of effort bullying misogynistic and sexist comments against women do not only sacrifice their emotional well-being. There are also not a few women victims of violence who have lost their jobs from this “vigilante” act.
In most cases, effort victim-blaming it ended in a fatal way - like suicide. Reporting from Liputan 6 News, Minister of Social Affairs Khofifah Indar Parawansa revealed that around 40 percent of Indonesian teenagers die of suicide due to not being able to stand victim bullying.
A teenage woman with the initials ES from Medan, was found dead after drinking grass poison because she could not bear the shame of being a victim of rape while her case was belittled by the police, as reported by Tribun News.
Meanwhile, the report from Pojok One stated that a young woman who was a victim of rape from Deliserdang also decided to end her life because the police forced her to reconcile and marry the perpetrator.
Stop ninny victims of sexual violence!
The lesson here is to think a thousand times before you scold or make derogatory comments based on what they wear or how they act.
Sexism and a misogynistic culture are real problems that need to be completely eradicated. This behavior can have lasting detrimental consequences for women.
