Why orgasm in men is faster and easier than women?

In general, it takes women 10 to 20 minutes for one orgasm after sexual intercourse begins, while male orgasms can be achieved in as little as 2 to 10 minutes. Plus, only about 25 percent of women can reach climax while more than 90 percent of men always reach orgasm every time they have sex.

In fact, what caused this "injustice"? Why is the male orgasm faster and easier to achieve than the female orgasm? Here's the explanation.

Male and female bodies are designed differently to reach orgasm

The form of orgasm in women is still a mystery, and sometimes there is fear and anxiety that haunts you when you welcome what you never knew before. These fears and worries can prevent a woman from reaching orgasm.

Orgasm is a personal experience and everyone has different orgasms. In addition, the intensity of each orgasm in women can also be different. Sometimes, the orgasm can be so intense that it overwhelms you. Other times, you may feel nothing but small sensations in your body, which you may not even be aware of.

There is a dual control mechanism in our brain that works together to trigger orgasm. One of these mechanisms is the sexual accelerator (think of the gas pedal as in a car), which responds to erotic stimuli and tells our bodies to get more. The other is a protective sexual decelerator, which acts as a brake to suppress excess sexual desire or turn it off altogether.

Basically, the mechanism for achieving orgasm in men and women is the same, namely the flow of blood from the heart to the sex organs - an erect penis for men, and an erect clitoris for women. However, to achieve it requires a different effort. In men, this sexual pedal is more sensitive while the brakes are less sensitive.

Orgasm in men that is easier is generally based on hypersensitivity from sexual stimulation that is too intense. That is why as long as a man can get an erection, a few minutes of sexual stimulation will lead to climax and ejaculation. The opposite is true for women. Because the sexual brake in women works more sensitive, women need to stimulate a little longer and painstakingly before they can start aroused.

So, what triggers the work of the gas and brake peda will depend on many factors. For example below.

The male orgasm is instinctive

The ease of reaching orgasm in men is more likely to be driven more or less by the subconscious biological instinct to reproduce. Men can have sex with many women. If done at the right time and he is lucky enough to have strong sperm, he could impregnate one of them. The more women he "invites" to have sex, the greater the chance for him to have offspring who inherit the best genes.

Unlike the woman who instinctively tends to unconsciously choose to wait for a single candidate, out of the many available, to have offspring from her. Although women can also have sex with multiple men, a woman's supply of eggs has limited capacity and shelf life of its own. So, there is a "biological imperative" for the woman to make sure she has sex until her partner ejaculates each time. Because if a woman climaxes first, there is a chance that the sex session ends too soon before the man has a chance to fertilize his egg.

Differences in body image problems between men and women

Instead of being driven by biology, male orgasm is unconsciously used as an important benchmark of what should be and happen in a sexual activity to indicate that sexual contact is successful and satisfying. To put it simply, orgasm in men should take precedence so that sex sessions can be considered successful whereas sexual activity that aims to produce orgasm in women is considered foreplay - an added bonus.

In fact, a study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine belonging to a research team from the Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender, and Reproduction at Indiana University found that women who have sex with women (lesbian partners) have more orgasm experiences than heterosexual women. almost as much as men who have sex with women. There are also many women who have no problem achieving orgasm on their own through masturbation. They actually reported that it was more difficult to reach orgasm when they made love with their male partner.

Societal stereotypes that view women as merely "objects" to satisfy men tend to pay attention to the physical appearance of the woman, not her feelings. This then creates anxieties or concerns in itself about how she looks from her partner's point of view, which decreases a woman's chances of having an orgasm. In the case of the lesbian partner or female masturbation above, they are not concerned about their physical appearance but rather an urge to give their partner satisfaction (or individual satisfaction).