Table of contents:
- How does jealousy arise?
- A sign that a man is being really jealous
- 1. Unclear accusation
- 2. A possessive character appears
- 3. Isolating you with other people
- Jealousy in men can be overcome slowly
- 1. Discuss problems well and calmly
- 2. Make rules together
Jealousy is very common in a relationship. This feeling can appear in both men and women. However, there are some signs that appear specifically in a man that indicate that he is being really jealous. Anything, huh?
How does jealousy arise?
Before knowing what are the signs of a man being heavily jealous, let's first examine why jealousy can arise in a relationship.
Jealousy is not a feeling you can manage. These feelings come naturally and can happen to everyone.
Jealousy comes from wanting to cover up other people's feelings and attitudes that you find offensive.
Usually, this happens because of the shame, insecurity, and ownership that exist in a relationship. Because of this, you often put yourself down and compare yourself to others.
Insecurity is often the root of jealousy, both in relationships and in other relationships.
Though harmless, this feeling that is often seen as a form of affection can have a big impact on your relationship.
That is why, knowing the characteristics of a man who is jealous is a good step so that you can deal with problems that arise from jealousy.
A sign that a man is being really jealous
1. Unclear accusation
Anxiety and fear are one of the triggers for jealousy. If a man feels insecure and afraid in his relationship, the habit of accusing his partner becomes more frequent.
This happens because the man feels helpless and causes them to make unsubstantiated accusations.
For example, you often travel with coworkers who are still in a team and need to be together a lot. According to your partner, you are spending too much time with your friend.
So, from this, various speculations and unclear accusations emerge, such as the possibility of you lying to cheating.
Therefore, a man who accuses things without clear evidence will usually ask to be persuaded that you only love him.
If this sign has appeared, it could be that the man has started to burn with jealousy.
2. A possessive character appears
Did you realize that a man who is possessive of his partner is also a sign of jealousy?
Possessiveness is a characteristic of someone who likes to limit the movements of his partner. Wherever you go and with anyone, you must always report. If you look closely, this possessiveness is often the source of the trouble for the two of you fighting.
Of course, over time you will feel hot having a possessive partner. As a result, you will often argue about fighting for your freedom.
Even though it looks harmless, you also have to be aware that this trait can be the beginning of an unhealthy relationship.
If the guy you love starts to like to adjust the way you dress, who you have to travel with, to limit communication with your friends, be careful. Boundaries are useful for creating comfort between you and your partner, but if they are excessive, they can certainly make you feel constrained.
3. Isolating you with other people
One sign that a guy is being really jealous is starting to distance you from other people, especially the opposite sex.
These guys usually don't want you to spend time with anyone, including family and friends. They want you only for themselves.
For example, suppose your partner began to forbid you from seeing your friends or family. If you are married, he may not even allow you to visit your parents' house often or just hang out with friends.
This behavior is done so that you no longer have a place to shelter other than him. If you are fighting with your partner, of course you will be looking for other people to ask for advice.
The thing that men fear the most is that other people suggest leaving them.
Therefore, "seclusion" is done so that your partner has complete control over you. You also no longer have anyone to rely on, other than him.
Jealousy in men can be overcome slowly
The three signs that indicate your man is jealous can be difficult to detect as a danger. It could be that he said that was his way of showing affection.
Therefore, here are some ways you might be able to fix an unhealthy relationship due to jealousy.
1. Discuss problems well and calmly
One way to get out of this problem is to talk about it calmly. This is done so that there is one party whose mind is still clear and can solve problems together.
Avoid fighting and don't get defensive about your behavior. Therefore, resolving it with a cool head is the key to dealing with a jealous man.
2. Make rules together
The relationship is done together, not you or your partner going alone. Therefore, together finding a way out of this problem is a good step.
Try to come up with some mutually beneficial rules for both you and your partner. This is so that the two of you don't feel "cheated" by the situation, especially since men who are easily jealous often feel insecure.
Therefore, making rules can at least build a guarantee between the two of you to save this relationship.
Basically, jealousy is natural in a relationship. However, if seen from the signs that have been described, of course this can be the beginning of an unhealthy relationship.
Good talk is key, but if it is beyond repair and physical and verbal abuse has begun, you may need to rethink. Does this relationship really have to be ended or can still be saved.
