Table of contents:
- How to control emotions when your ex is married
- 1. Calm down first
- 2. Learn to be more grateful
- 3. Confide in the closest person
Just breaking up can make you sad, especially when you leave your ex-boyfriend in marriage with you. If the love story that breaks up is still possible to return, it is different with being left married. When you leave the marriage, it is a sign that you have to bury deeply the desire to be back together. It's okay to be sad, but you still have to move on by controlling the negative emotions that are currently overflowing.
How to control emotions when your ex is married
Don't continue to be sad. Come on, fix yourself by controlling your emotions in the following ways.
1. Calm down first
Meditation is one great way to calm yourself down. Psychologist from Chicago, Robbie Maller Hartman, Ph.D., explains that doing meditation every day can help change the nerve pathways of the brain that make you more resistant to pressure.
The method is very easy, you only need to sit upright with your legs crossed. Place both hands on your thighs or one hand on your stomach to help align your breaths.
Then close your eyes and focus your attention on the positive words you suggest to yourself. Positive phrases you can say to yourself such as "I am strong, I am not alone, I can also be happy."
In addition, another simple way you can do is take a deep breath for 5 minutes. Taking deep breaths can help calm you down by slowing your heart rate and lowering blood pressure.
Much like meditation, you can do this sitting up straight with your eyes closed. Slowly, inhale the air through your nose and exhale through your mouth.
2. Learn to be more grateful
Try to remember, what made you and your partner end the relationship? Whatever the reason, it means that there are things that can no longer be lived together, right? Whether because of differences in principles, bad qualities that can no longer be tolerated, and a number of other strong reasons that make the two of you decide to separate.
Now, when your ex gets married while you are still alone, don't get into sadness. Sad or upset is definitely there, but you need to control it so it doesn't get over you.
Instead, you have to learn to be grateful. Grateful for the sign you no longer need to think about him who never thinks of you. Grateful that your ex has finally found a partner who can make him happy. You also need to be grateful because your ex might not be the right person to be with you later.
Even though it is difficult at first, try to see the positive sides of the sadness that you are experiencing. As Sonja Lyubomirsky, Ph.D., a psychologist at the University of California Riverside in the United States, said, being grateful helps increase energy, erode pain, and release sadness.
3. Confide in the closest person
If you don't feel strong enough to keep it to yourself, it's time to confide in a friend or parent. You can share your sadness with someone you trust. Believe me, by telling the closest person, the burden that is in your chest will gradually be lifted until it finally disappears.
Having people close to you who are always ready to listen to stories will help strengthen you for the next day. By telling stories, you know that you are not alone and that there are still many people who love you.
You can cry, you can be disappointed, but don't overdo it. Remember, it's important to make yourself happy by leaving behind all the memories of the past and starting to move forward with planning for the future.
