Table of contents:
- Is it true that only women need foreplay?
- Secretly, men also want foreplay, you know!
- Tips and tricks for fun foreplay for men
- 1. Kiss and bite all over the body
- 2. Manifest your fantasies
- 3. Massage the body
Foreplay is known as a foreplay or opening act that can arouse and make you maximally aroused. Well, there is a mistaken assumption that only women need foreplay before sex because men heat up faster than women. In fact, not only women who like heating activities in this bed. Men also secretly like, you know, doing foreplay.
Is it true that only women need foreplay?
No, this assumption is out of date and wrong. A doctor who specializes in mental health and author of books from the United States, dr. Mark Epstein, explained that so far men actually want foreplay, but they are afraid.
Afraid of what? Apparently men are afraid that if they spend time for foreplay, when it is time to penetrate, they will lose their erection so that the penis actually softens again. Many are also afraid that foreplay will trigger premature ejaculation.
Because of this fear, many men tend to rush into the main menu, namely sexual penetration (penis into the vagina). However, that does not mean that men do not want and need to warm up before entering the main meal.
Secretly, men also want foreplay, you know!
Excerpted from Psychology Today, researchers from Canada conducted a survey of 152 couples about how much time they spend warming up in bed, and how long they ideally want to do it. This is the result:
- Women said they wanted an average of 19 minutes to warm themselves in bed. Unfortunately, in reality this warm-up only lasted about 11 minutes. The women also said they wanted 14 minutes of intercourse. However, they only spend seven minutes to have sex, aka half of their real expectations.
- Men say they want an average of 18 minutes to warm up in bed. Meanwhile, in reality they only did foreplay within 11 minutes. Then, the men want 19 minutes to have sex. Again, in reality they only make love for about 5 to 6 minutes.
It can be concluded that both women and men want quite a long time for foreplay, which is almost 20 minutes. Therefore, for men - don't be afraid to enjoy the appetizer first before tasting the main menu, namely penetration. Women are also strongly advised to "heat up" their partner first before sex.
Tips and tricks for fun foreplay for men
1. Kiss and bite all over the body
To satisfy a man's sexual desire by warming up in bed, you have to know what a man wants. One of them is with a gentle bite all over the body. Women can start biting their lips, gently touching a man's ear, and kissing the back of his neck. Gently bite and kiss her all over her body while gently pointing it towards her lower body, namely her penis.
2. Manifest your fantasies
If you have certain sexual fantasies, foreplay is the right time to make it happen. Suppose you fantasize about having sex in public places like on a plane. You can ask your partner to dress like a hot flight attendant. Enjoy your fantasies first, for example by exploring your partner's body in their sexy costume, or asking your partner to practice the safety guidelines that flight attendants usually put out before the plane takes off.
3. Massage the body
Massage is powerful enough to make sexual desire rise, especially for men. Women can tease a partner by massaging his body parts such as back and chest first gently. Only then trace the lower body. Starting from the legs, thighs, inner thighs, and finally to the penis.
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