Table of contents:
- Problems faced when dealing with couples of different ages
- 1. Parents do not approve
- 2. Friends disagree
- 3. Couples are more prone to illness
- 4. Sexual problems
Whoever you are in a relationship with, there are bound to be problems that cause you to fight with your partner. However, for those of you who have a partner who is quite far apart, this is certainly a challenge for you and the him. The pebbles in a relationship can be sharper than when you are in a relationship with someone your age or age is not that far apart.
Problems faced when dealing with couples of different ages
Going out with even younger men sometimes generates gossip here and there from friends and family. Especially if you are determined to have a relationship with a partner who is quite far apart in age. “Isn't there another man who is more of the same age? Why, it has to be with him who is the same age as you? " and a row of other questions that make you confused about answering them.
In fact, everyone knows that love can come to anyone at any time, regardless of age. Even so, there are some risks and problems that you inevitably have to face when having a relationship with a partner of different ages. Among them:
1. Parents do not approve
Dating a different age partner, whether it's much older or younger, is actually not a strange thing. This is natural because feelings of love can grow anytime and to whomever you want.
Sometimes, however, your parents think the opposite way. Most parents still think that you should be in a relationship with a man your age.
Because he said, dating or married to men the same age tend to have the same mindset. According to him, this will have a positive impact on your domestic life in the future. Or even if it is actually older or younger, the age difference is not that great. Either only 2, 3, or 5 years difference.
According to a study in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships in 2005, equality with a partner can increase satisfaction in long-term relationships. Usually, this similarity will be easier to achieve if we have a partner who is not much different in age.
How to deal with: In fact, the same age does not always guarantee the same mindset or habits, you know! So, explain to your parents and family that you really understand their concerns.
Do not rush to give up and back off when your parents do not approve of your relationship. Try to introduce your partner gradually.
For example, the first meeting is just to introduce your partner to your parents. At the next meeting, have your spouse and parents chat together to get to know each other. With a good approach, your parents will gradually melt and approve of your relationship.
2. Friends disagree
According to a study in the journal Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin in 2006, dating couples of different ages most often get rejection from friends or closest friends. They may worry that your partner won't be able to mingle with your playmates later.
Instead of introducing your partner to your friends, you can become stressed and end up covering up your relationship. Be careful, this can secretly destroy the intimacy of you and the him too, you know!
How to deal with: Invite your friends to talk heart to heart. Say that you and your partner are in a serious relationship, even committed to each other.
Ask the reason why your friends disagree with your relationship. That way, you can explain everything and make them understand. Trust that a good friend will support whatever decision you make, as long as it is good for your life.
3. Couples are more prone to illness
Every couple, young or old, is sure to go through times of illness. Well, this is certainly a big challenge for you when you are in a relationship with a partner of different ages, especially with men who are much older.
When dealing with men whose ages are far apart, their immune system is usually lower than yours, so they are susceptible to disease. In fact, you certainly want to have a healthy relationship, from now on, right?
How to deal with: The key is being open to each other. Tell your partner if you have a certain medical history and ask your partner to do the same.
Invite your partner for routine health checks (medical check-up) to monitor his health. Don't forget, too, make sure to always eat nutritious food and take vitamins so that the body remains fit and healthy.
4. Sexual problems
When it comes to sex, the age difference can make your relationship even more complicated. Because, often increasing age, both men and women are susceptible to sexual disorders.
If you have sex with an older man, he will be prone to erectile dysfunction. In contrast, older women tend to experience decreased sexual desire, making it more difficult to orgasm.
Experts also reveal that men and women reach their sexual peak at different ages. Men generally reach their sexual peak in their 20s and decline in their 60s. Meanwhile, women are considered to achieve the highest sexual satisfaction in their 30s.
This of course can be a problem if your partner is not excited, while you are entering the peak sexual period. Be careful, the intimacy of the two of you can be threatened.
How to deal with: The most important key is communication. Yes, talk it heart to heart when one of you is having sexual problems. If necessary, ask for help from a psychologist or doctor to help with sexual problems you are experiencing.
