Table of contents:
- Your traits may be a lesbian
- 1. You fantasize with other women
- 2. You find the male figure attractive, but not sexy to you
- 3. When watching a romantic movie, you secretly hope that the female character ends up with the woman's best friend
- 4. You start asking questions and finding out all about lesbians
- What should I do if I believe that I am a lesbian?
- Accept your new self
- Try to fit in
Am I a lesbian? The answer to that question is one of those complex things whose answer can only be felt by yourself. Actually, what is meant by a lesbian? Okay, to put it simply, lesbian is a condition in which a woman is sexually attracted to other women as well.
So, if you have been suspicious of a slightly different sexual orientation, how do you know if you are a lesbian? Just like the stages of identifying yourself as gay, there are a range of questions you can try to answer to be sure.
Your traits may be a lesbian
1. You fantasize with other women
Fantasizing, whether it's sexual fantasies or romanticizing a woman, is one of the ways of thinking that signals your sexual orientation.
It's still normal to think about what it would be like to kiss or just hold hands with another woman. From here, maybe you are still avoiding or looking for other ways to destroy fantasies that you think are not normal. However, if this fantasy is becoming more and more and you even enjoy it? You may ask back to your conscience.
2. You find the male figure attractive, but not sexy to you
Make no mistake, a lesbian can still find a man attractive, but her sexual desire is not directed at the male figure. A lesbian will still feel that women are much more attractive in terms of appearance, body, and behavior, than any male figure.
Then, do you have an idol, such as a celebrity or female character that you are sexually attracted to, and not just an idol that you admire? Or do you feel more comfortable surrounded by beautiful women than handsome men? If this is the case, then it is possible that your sexual attraction is indeed in women.
3. When watching a romantic movie, you secretly hope that the female character ends up with the woman's best friend
Try to remember, have you ever had when other female friends were moved and even happy with the happy ending of the movie you watched, then you actually argued and felt the opposite? Do you hope that the male character dies or is decided, so that the female character ends up living happily with her female friend?
If everything you see, whether in real life or just a love movie, you expect two women to live together and be happy together, maybe this means you are the one who wants to get it.happy ending with the woman of your choice.
4. You start asking questions and finding out all about lesbians
This is the stage where you have started looking for reassurance, examples of experiences, and recognition from other people out there. You need a determinant to make sure that your sexual identity is different.
If you read blogs and websites about lesbians, watch lesbian movies, or even start researching same-sex inspiration on the internet, and if you think it's a gift that makes you feel good, you can be sure that you really are different.
What should I do if I believe that I am a lesbian?
Accept your new self
If you currently feel that you are a lesbian, you must understand that humans are difficult to understand, as well as their sexual identity. The name of desire is difficult to contain, as well as your different interests.
There is no need to avoid, reject, or even hate yourself. It's all just upsetting your mind as opposed to your thoughts. You can move on with life accepting your new self. The point is, accept your new self, understand and do not need to be angry with circumstances. This stage is a personal process in which your mind, mind, and body are ready to start something new.
Try to fit in
If you can accept your differences, at this stage you are asked to start to feel relieved and let go. Try to find friends from various communities who are experiencing the same thing, so that you can get inspiration about how to live your life, hear stories of the struggles of other people in the same fate, and encourage yourself so you don't feel "different yourself."
If you are ready, you can also start talking to the people closest to you about your sexual identity, or seek support from counseling if you experience stress that you feel is too heavy due to the stigma in society.
