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When you love someone, maybe you will hope that love will continue forever. However, in fact, many people decide to separate from their partners after some time, even after getting married. The reasons for the love between partners that had faded, were often expressed until they finally decided to separate. Is it true that love can fade after such a long time?
Is it true that love can fade after some time?
When you fall in love, endorphins and oxytocin hormones are active, resulting in happy sensations, feelings, and urges. The feelings will only last for a while, maybe for a few minutes or a few years. Thus, gradually, the passionate feelings can fade away.
When these feelings no longer appear, some people may become bored and think that their love for their partner has waned. This group of people made no effort to revive their relationship.
In fact, this can lead to unhealthy conflicts, distance between partners to be far away, or even mutual dislike. These reasons can ultimately make you feel no longer in love with your partner, so that your relationship can run aground and not last forever.
On the other hand, there are also those who understand that a passionate feeling like being in love is only temporary and must be nurtured so that the relationship lasts longer. This is what must then be built to revive the love between them.
It can be concluded that feelings of love can indeed fade over time. However, it is not only a matter of time, there are many factors or reasons that dampen the feeling of love between partners.
How to revive a faded love?
A psychological therapist, Barton Goldsmith, Ph. D in Psychology Today said to revive a love that has faded can not happen quickly. There needs to be an effort from both people in the partner so that their love will rise again optimally. He also said the key to happiness is maintaining and building intimacy between partners.
To maintain intimacy, for married couples, not only through sexual intercourse. Affectionate touches, such as holding hands, hugging, and kissing are equally important for maintaining intimacy.
It's also important to know what your partner doesn't like, such as unwanted touching. Build communication with your partner about what you and your partner want and need.
Spending quality time together with your partner can be done to maintain intimacy. You may have fond memories of being with your partner the first time you met or the first date. Have an occasional date night with your partner or just sit together chatting and holding hands.
Apart from maintaining intimacy, there are also a number of other things you can do to maintain a good relationship with your partner and avoid fading love, namely:
- Maintain good communication with your partner.
- Learn to give and take with a partner.
- Be prepared for ups and downs in relationships.
Love between partners can fade over time, but you and your partner can still revive the love with the efforts of both parties. However, love is not the only thing that is needed, you and your partner also need love, commitment, courage, wisdom and patience.
