Table of contents:
- How to deal with a spoiled child
- 1. Be consistent
- 2. Provide a simple explanation
- 3. Give praise
- 4. Involve children in various social activities
- 5. Provide punishment
- 6. Shows good and bad behavior
Does one of your children have a spoiled temper? Excessive spoiled nature can indeed have a negative impact on the development of the child in the future. Then how do I fix it?
How to deal with a spoiled child
All parents must love their children, therefore they give whatever is asked by the children, let the children make mistakes, and do not have the heart to scold them.
This is not wrong, but if affection is channeled in an improper way, it will affect your child's development. One of them causes the child to have an excessively spoiled nature.
Research conducted at the Harvard School of Public Health, which involved parents in their research, showed that as many as 88% of parents admit to having spoiled children.
Of course, almost all children may whine, cry, throw tantrums, and that's normal for children to have. But what makes this a problem is the attitude of parents in dealing with their children. It is not uncommon for parents to be undisciplined, inconsistent, and too “soft” to face their children.
A spoiled child will usually do everything he can to get what he wants, and when he hears the word no, he will throw tantrums, get angry, whine, kick, and so on. So what if your child is spoiled?
1. Be consistent
One of the things that often causes spoilage to emerge is that you are inconsistent with what you have told the child. When children ask for something they want and you say you can't fulfill it, then the child will whine or cry.
Those of you who see and hear children cry, become discouraged, then immediately give them what they want. From this, children learn that they will get what they want if they whine or cry. Therefore, it is not impossible that your child will whine louder if his subsequent requests are not complied with.
If you did say "no" at the beginning, then stick to the no to the end. Even if you have to see your child whining and crying. This is one of the tests for you whether you can be consistent with what has been said. If the child cries, then just let it be or talk nicely to the child the reason why you can't fulfill his request.
2. Provide a simple explanation
When your child asks for something and you can't or don't want to fulfill it, explain why they can't get it.
Children have the right to be angry, sad, and disappointed if their desires cannot be fulfilled. However
By giving a clear explanation to the child, it will help the child understand the situation that is happening. So after that, it will be easier for him to overcome his sadness and can understand when he should ask for it again.
3. Give praise
When a child does good, there is nothing wrong with praising him, even if the things he does are small things. By continuing to praise him, the child will be motivated to do other good things.
Or you can also give them kisses and hugs when they're doing good. They are not only motivated to do other good deeds, but also feel your love for them.
4. Involve children in various social activities
By involving children in social activities, children will learn to share, communicate, and control their egos. In addition, you can tell and explain various life lessons and moral values that exist in these social groups. Of course, in language that is easy to understand.
For example, you can explain what it means to be grateful, and so on.
5. Provide punishment
Providing punishment is not always bad for children. Giving appropriate punishment to children will make children learn not to repeat bad things again. For example, you can confiscate a favorite item or toy when the child is not making his room or bed.
6. Shows good and bad behavior
Tell your child about good behavior that you are probably used to doing. But you also have to explain any bad habits or bad behavior that occurs around your child.
For example, when you go to a place and see another child whining or throwing a tantrum for something, tell your child that it is a bad thing and explain the consequences of doing it.
