Table of contents:
- The reasons love fades
- 1. The reality of life
- 2. Communication is not smooth
- 3. Time can make love fade
- 4. Changes in a partner
Those of you who have a hobby of watching romantic genre dramas must have imagined that your love and your partner will last forever. Or for those of you who haven't found a partner, you must have fantasized about finding a soulmate who can live and die together. Falling in love is certainly a normal thing for everyone, but don't forget, if you talk about the beauty of being in love, you also have to be prepared with the sadness due to the fading of love.
The reasons love fades
Yes, your love for your partner can disappear without even a trace. No exception for those of you who are bound in marriage. According to the National Population and Family Planning Agency (BKKBN), the divorce rate in Indonesia ranks first in the Asia Pacific, the number has increased by 15-20 percent from 2010-2015.
Divorce is not a sign that your love with your partner has faded, many other factors affect it, but if your marriage is in trouble, usually the love will also disappear. There are several reasons why your love and your partner are lost, here are 4 reasons why your love is fading.
1. The reality of life
Your busy daily life is very influential on your love life, because of the fact that many couples do not share their time well. As a result, many feel that they have no partner to share with.
Couples who experience this will usually feel distrustful and if allowed to make things worse, especially for those in the marriage. This disbelief will cause negative thoughts towards one another. This will easily remove the love for your partner slowly.
2. Communication is not smooth
Those of you who have a very busy life, of course, also have a love life. Usually for those of you who are busy, communication is mostly a major problem. According to psychologist Will Meek, communication is the most important thing about how you share what you are thinking and how you understand how other people feel.
Communication is certainly not always synonymous with meeting, but about how you want to listen to your partner's thoughts and feelings. If things don't go well, then you and your partner won't be able to understand each other's thoughts and feelings. Furthermore, this will affect your love for your partner.
3. Time can make love fade
When it comes to love, feeling is of course the most important factor. According to Lisa Firestone, a psychotherapist, love may not disappear from your romantic life, but feelings of love for your partner can change over time. The intensity of your love for your partner can be very different when you first met, and can increase or decrease over time until feelings disappear and your love for your partner fades.
4. Changes in a partner
This can also be the reason your love for your partner is fading. When you fall in love, you see all the good things in your partner. However, once you know the bad side of your partner, your love will be very tested, you will divert some of your feelings towards the things you do not like about your partner, and this will greatly affect your love and relationship.
Every couple has different ways to deal with their relationship problems. If you are married, of course your feelings of love for your partner that are starting to disappear will greatly affect your married life. It's a good idea for you and your partner to immediately solve this problem together or meet the right person to solve it.
