Table of contents:
- Why, yes, the crushghostingwe?
- Tips to avoid being hit ghosting
- 1. Drag and drop during PDKT
- 2. Do not pass too many PDKTs chat
- 3. Watch his movements
Ghosting is a bitter phenomenon for warriors of romance. Just imagine when you are again affectionate-sad and ready to say love, the crush suddenly disappears without a trace. Being left without clarity no longer made the heart chaotic, but he made it shattered and scattered. There is no way to prevent us from being hit ghosting prospective boyfriend himself?
Why, yes, the crushghostingwe?
According to Psychology Today,ghostingis a passive aggressive strategy that a person uses to break off a relationship suddenly and unilaterally.
Ghosting is very common during the PDKT stage, and there are many reasons why someone couldghosting his own future partner. Generally because they feel ghosting is the best way to imply that they are no longer interested in you or that the relationship will not work out in the future.
But instead of having to end the relationship through talking privately and facing all the consequences, the perpetratorghosting preferring to avoid immediately and disappear from circulation without clarity. It is not uncommon for them to cut contact through all communication channels so that it is difficult to contact them.
In fact, whatever someone's reasons for deciding to disappear without a word,ghostingcan cause psychological injury to the "victim".
Tips to avoid being hit ghosting
In the human heart, who knows. We also cannot force other people's feelings to remain the same and in line with our expectations.
But maybe who knows some of the tips below can help you avoid being hit ghosting crush when the love flowers are ready to bloom. If in the end the relationship cannot be maintained, you can both end it well without harming either party.
1. Drag and drop during PDKT
An expensive selling attitude may have become your mainstay trick when PDKT to captivate your crush. But be careful not to get preoccupied. Remember, first impressions are important.
In fact, research teams from Israel and New York say that continuing to sell expensive sales can make you look unattractive for a long time and are seen as not serious about building relationships. This is probably because the he feels all his efforts so far are not appreciated and welcomed by you. Even the cold and ignorant attitude you "sell" looks like underestimating him.
Vice versa, if you are too "clinging" to the alias clingy and lead possessiveness to the crush. He may think of you as a boring person or just be too controlling so he takes a long time to do it ilfeel.
So you have to be very clever in devising a "push-and-pull" strategy during PDKT. Also show that you are an open person who has an interesting and happy life, to keep the flowers of romance blooming. For example, by occasionally giving him a surprise or small gift. But on the other hand, also give a mysterious impression by avoiding immediately opening up and telling all the stories of your life at one time.
Keep your crush curious by continuing to provoke him to take the initiative to find out more about you. Think of you as an onion that needs to be peeled layer by layer so that your potential boyfriend will eventually know you are inside and out and feel more connected.
2. Do not pass too many PDKTs chat
Spending more time in the real world than just PDKT via cellphone can be a pretty powerful way of avoiding being hit ghosting. Because ghosting usually the result of untreated miscommunication.
When you chat face-to-face, you can at least tell if the two of you really have chemistry or do you feel attracted through reading each other's body language and speech.Chemistry and genuine interest can not always be reflected only through the chat on chat.
Try starting to sort out the chat topic, which one you think is more interesting to talk about at chat and which one is more suitable for conversation when meeting face to face. This way, spending time with him in cyberspace and the real world will always feel warm, fun, and not boring.
3. Watch his movements
If you have been dating or in a relationship for a long time, surely you can guess how the routine of your relationship is. As is the custom of the moment chat or how enthusiastic he is when you discuss a certain matter.
Now if you have used all kinds of methods to attract him but he has started to reluctantly, like starting to respond chat for a long time without clarity or starting to be difficult to contact and meet without reason, there is a possibility that you will be hit ghosting the him.
But actually you don't get offended quickly. Ghosting sometimes it can actually be a blessing. You may have just avoided a potential boyfriend who wasn't good for you in the future. Be thankful for that, and move on for the sake of finding a new mooring.
