Table of contents:
- The cause of someone feeling inferior to their physical deficiencies
- Change your mindset to turn your weaknesses into strengths
There is no human in the world that was created perfect. Every human being is created complete with advantages and disadvantages. However, many people who may include yourself, feel that a few shortcomings that you have become a big problem that actually hinder various sides of your life. Physical deficiencies, especially, are usually a big problem for most people because they are considered as the main capital to determine the level of self-confidence.
The cause of someone feeling inferior to their physical deficiencies
"Why, the hell am I shorter than the other boys?"
“It must be nice to have straight hair, beautiful, and easy to manage. It's not like my hair is curly and bothersome. "
"How can you be confident if my face is full of burn marks like this?"
You may have said a few of the complaints above. Indeed, seeing your physical deficiencies will be much easier than seeing the strengths you have. Just try it, if someone asks what their strengths and weaknesses are, most of them will smoothly answer a series of shortcomings that are in themselves rather than strengths. How did it happen?
One of the reasons is because most of the people in the world think that the standard of beauty and good looks of a person has already been set in this world. White skin, sharp nose, long legs, athletic body, and others. Not infrequently people go to great lengths to do everything they can to change their physical deficiencies just to get a perfect assessment from others.
Lack of acceptance of yourself will trigger a host of other negative things, such as stress. Have you ever thought, why do you continue to complain about your physical deficiencies to justify any means to get rid of them? If the answer is to get positive evaluations from others, this is a sign that you are caught in the wrong mindset.
Change your mindset to turn your weaknesses into strengths
Changing your mindset is one powerful way to turn your weaknesses into strengths. Instill in yourself that humans are created with certain advantages and disadvantages. Physical deficiencies will not be a barrier if you can manage them well.
TED Talk star Phil Hansen shares the story of how he turned his physical deficiencies into strengths, even his current strengths. Hansen had tremors in his hands when he entered art school. This made it difficult for him to draw straight lines that maybe even everyone could do. Hansen can only produce doodles and as a person who has a big dream to become an artist, he considers this as a wall that must be crossed.
Hansen said, to get out of this zone you need to sort all the physical deficiencies you have and try to accept them. Embrace your weaknesses and weaknesses and love them. Make an effort to create real change instead of just complaining about it without taking any remedial steps. Apart from that, you also need to find hidden sides of your weaknesses that can be openings for you to turn them into something much more positive.
Changing your mindset to make your physical weaknesses and flaws is not easy. Sometimes, you need outside help to get out of your negative thoughts. Consulting with the closest people and experts (for example, psychologists and therapists) can be an option if you find it difficult to embrace your shortcomings.
In addition, make friends with people who can see your strengths, far beyond the physical deficiencies that make you insecure. Avoid people who look you down or judge you by your appearance.
Never feel that your physical deficiencies are insurmountable weaknesses. Sometimes, you don't need to cover up all the flaws you have. You just need to change and optimize it into strengths that you will be proud of. Because if you don't love yourself, who will?
