Table of contents:
- The impact of holding back sexual appetite for too long
- 1. Cause stress and depression
- 2. Damaging the relationship that you have with your partner
- So, what should I do?
Sexual desire is desire, lust, or desire for sexual activity. This is often referred to as libido. The emergence of this arousal is controlled by sex hormones, whose levels increase due to stimulation. However, in certain situations, not everyone can fulfill this desire in their partner. So, what happens if someone restrains the sexual appetite they feel for a long time?
The impact of holding back sexual appetite for too long
For those of you who are married, of course there is no need to bother fulfilling the desire to have sex with your partner. You just take the time, put on a spoiled stance, give a little stimulation and games in bed can be obtained. Even if you and your partner plan to postpone having a child, there are many contraceptives that you are free to choose so that sexual intercourse can still be done.
Unfortunately, not all couples have this opportunity, especially couples who have to undergo long-distance relationships (long distance relationship), undergo a divorce, or live alone because a spouse has died. People with this condition tend to hold back the sexual appetite they feel.
According to the medical side, it turns out that there are negative effects that can occur if you or your partner hold onto the same libido, namely:
1. Cause stress and depression
Not only testosterone and estrogen, it turns out that there are other hormones that come into play when sex arises. Craig Malkin, a psychologist who has also written a book on controlling libido, notes that several hormones are involved, such as dopamine, serotonin, norapenephine and oxytocin.
This combination of hormones produced by the central nervous system causes sexual arousal, feelings of dizziness, and euphoria. If you or your partner tries to restrain your sexual desire, it will likely cause a chemical disruption in the brain, which can lead to stress and depression.
2. Damaging the relationship that you have with your partner
Fulfillment of your wishes, will certainly cause feelings of pleasure and satisfaction, right? This is the same with sex drive. When you or your partner's sexual needs are met, satisfaction in relationship will certainly be obtained. Yes, the satisfaction in a relationship will make the relationship stronger and more lasting.
Conversely, if this sexual need is neglected, the relationship that occurs will be unhealthy. Withholding sexual desire and not getting satisfaction in this relationship makes you further away and ultimately destroys the relationship.
So, what should I do?
Holding on to sex for too long is not good for your health and the relationship you build. The key to avoiding it is not to hold back sexual desire, but to extinguish the turmoil in the following ways, such as:
- Masturbation. This activity is an alternative way to get sexual stimulation by touching, groping, or playing with one's own intimate organs.
- Sports. This physical activity can distract you from the turmoil of having sex.
- Talk to your partner.Instead of indulging yourself in masturbation, consider discussing this with your partner. Although you cannot directly hug, kiss, or kiss your partner, advanced technology such as the telephone, chat, video call can be a medium to let go of your nostalgia and affection for your partner.
- Consult a sex expert.There is nothing wrong if you try to consult a psychologist or sexologist. They will help you to find a way out of this problem.
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