Table of contents:
- 7 ways to make peace with yourself
- 1. Believe in yourself
- 2. Understand your own thoughts
- 3. Care about yourself
- 4. Don't be too ambitious
- 5. Realize that being disappointed is a part of life
- 6. Face your fear
- 7. Don't be a perfectionist
Making peace with yourself is not as easy as it sounds. Often times you expect or expect too high, even for yourself. Giving expectations and targets that are too heavy for oneself actually adds to the burden, especially if the expectations and targets that are set are not in accordance with one's own capacity and ability to achieve them.
Comparing yourself with other people can also trigger difficulty making peace with yourself. 'The grass is greener on the other side of the house' is true. The easy access you have to view other people's lives can sometimes make you feel "small" and ungrateful for what you already have.
If allowed, this can impact your acceptance of yourself and prevent you from real happiness.
7 ways to make peace with yourself
To be at peace with yourself is to love yourself completely. According to Psychology Today, loving yourself is an important part of your mental health as well as your relationships with other people. From now on, let's make peace and love ourselves.
1. Believe in yourself
Reduce feelings of self-doubt. Believe everything that comes from within you. Whatever happens, you will grow through your personal experiences, so have confidence in yourself.
You may be smart enough to understand what steps to take in each situation. Don't be afraid to make mistakes because from those mistakes you can learn to be a better person.
Give yourself time to study and be patient as part of making peace with yourself.
2. Understand your own thoughts
Not all thoughts you have are positive thoughts. Start to become aware of your bad thoughts so that you can quickly brush off any negative thoughts that arise.
In order to make peace with yourself, follow all the positive thoughts that can lead you to a better life. Don't indulge and let the negative thoughts of life drag on in your head.
3. Care about yourself
It may sound easy, but not everyone can do it. Most people just choose not to think about themselves and always put others first as if their needs and interests are not more important than others.
In fact, this thought actually makes you shrink yourself. Try to love yourself by aligning your feelings with the feelings of others, that your feelings are as important as those of others.
Treat yourself the same way you would treat people you care about. Loving yourself allows you to forgive all the mistakes you've made so that you can finally make peace with yourself.
4. Don't be too ambitious
The ambition to progress and improve can be good motivation for you, but wanting too much can hurt you. Especially if you can't reach it.
Get to know your own capacities and abilities, and adjust your desires to those two things. You may want something, but make sure you are not hurting yourself in the process.
Making peace with yourself also means reducing your potential for self-harm.
5. Realize that being disappointed is a part of life
As a human being, you cannot avoid feeling sad and disappointed. Even successful and happy people have had these feelings.
Deal with these feelings firmly and accept them well. Don't try to avoid it or pretend you don't feel it, because it's just delaying you through it.
Give yourself time to process these feelings and do something about them, as part of making peace with yourself.
6. Face your fear
If you have a fear of something, don't try to hate that feeling. Better to admit that feeling and try to face the fear you have.
By facing it, you will become stronger and more accustomed to it. The fear may never go away, but at least you already know how to overcome it.
7. Don't be a perfectionist
It is normal for everyone to do something wrong. Getting too caught up in regretting the mistakes you've made will only make you feel unhappy.
Try to accept the mistakes you have made as part of the learning process. Don't beat yourself up too harshly for the mistakes that have happened.
Making peace with yourself means accepting yourself completely, including the mistakes you have made, especially against yourself.