Table of contents:
- What to do when your husband claims to be gay?
- 1. Try to accept reality
- 2. Decide the continuation of the marriage going forward
- 3. Check or test for venereal disease
- 4. Trying to discuss together to tell the child
A person's sexual orientation cannot be forced. But sometimes. for the demands of social life, someone who has a sexual orientation such as homosexual and bisexual must hide it, even cover it up by forcibly marrying the opposite sex.
In some household cases, there are wives who suspect that their husband is gay or have a different sexual orientation. This usually occurs when there are signs of rejection and the intensity of sexual intercourse decreases together.
Even in some cases, wives find that their husbands enjoy watching gay porn movies.
In the end, this initial suspicion came true. Your husband acknowledges same-sex sexual attraction. What can you do when your husband admits that he is gay?
What to do when your husband claims to be gay?
1. Try to accept reality
After your husband admits he is gay, you can try to calm your mind first.
It is undeniable that feelings of betrayal, destruction, disappointment and also anger are mixed together. The first thing you can do is accept the fact that sexual orientation cannot be changed or forced.
Not only are you feeling sick, your husband has been torturing himself by having to cover up his real gay identity. As you try to calm down while accepting the truth, you can also decide where to take the marriage relationship in the future.
2. Decide the continuation of the marriage going forward
After accepting the harsh reality, you can and have the right to make future marriage decisions. Do you want to divorce or accept your husband despite your gay sexual orientation?
The decisions you take later are not right or wrong. Because every decision you make, will feel right or wrong depending on how you respond when you live it.
To make a decision, you may consult a marriage counselor for advice or a wiser opinion regarding this marriage issue. Don't forget to tell your husband about the decision you made.
3. Check or test for venereal disease
After deciding what steps you take after finding out that your husband is gay, you can check the condition of your genital health. The reason is, when your partner cheats, you are at risk of contracting venereal disease. Moreover, sex between men has a high risk of sexually transmitted diseases, especially when it is done without safety.
With early screening and prevention, you can find out whether you have contracted a sexually transmitted disease or not and can handle it before unwanted complications occur.
4. Trying to discuss together to tell the child
After you can resolve your worries about marital status and consult with a marriage counselor, now you can try telling your children. Sooner or later they have to find out what's going on between the parents. Your husband should be able to tell the truth as much as possible.
Because after all, the decisions you both make will have an impact on your children. They need to know what's going on in the family.
