Table of contents:
- Be careful, falling in love quickly can make you hate later
- Maybe what you feel is not real love
- In fact, love and hate have the same physiological effect
- Love takes time, it can't be as fast as lightning
Actually you don't need to rush in love affairs, you just have to wait, trust and give love time to develop and grow deeper. However, some people may fall in love quickly, but in the end there is resentment. Actually, why do people fall in love so quickly and then hate each other?
Be careful, falling in love quickly can make you hate later
You may fall in love quickly, but after a while there will be feelings of hatred, of course, in the same partner. This can actually be explained in a scientific explanation.
Yes, some researchers argue that love is a form of temporary insanity, a sweet madness that allows you to ignore a loved one's shortcomings until it hits you and the taste turns to hate.
But calm down, not everyone who quickly falls in love can immediately turn to hate, really. There are also those who do find true love quickly and lasting relationships until death does.
Maybe what you feel is not real love
So, a study has shown that people who are quick to fall in love with and attracted to their partners tend to feel resentful over a short period of time. This study looked at the behavior of several young men who were asked to cross a bridge and then meet a woman at the end of the bridge. There are two jembatang provided by the researcher, namely a bridge that is already rickety and a bridge that is still good.
Later, it was discovered that some of the men who crossed this rickety bridge were mostly attracted to the woman at the end of the bridge. Meanwhile the group of men passing through the good bridge felt nothing.
Experts claim that the attraction of this group of men crossing this rickety bridge is not really a reason to fall in love or like it. This is because as long as the men cross the rickety bridge, they experience an increase in the hormone adrenaline. The hormone adrenaline makes the heart beat faster, breathing becomes faster, and affects the emotions of men.
In the end, this group of men thought that this was a sign that they were attracted to the woman at the end of the bridge. Meanwhile, the men who cross the good bridge do not experience these hormonal changes and do not feel the same attraction.
From this research it can be concluded that a person can easily feel attracted and then feel himself falling in love. In fact, love takes a long time to grow deeper.
In fact, love and hate have the same physiological effect
People who feel like or attracted to someone may misinterpret how they feel at that moment. The reason is, the body changes that occur at that time are almost the same as the feeling of love. In fact, this change also occurs when you feel resentment towards someone.
Changes or physiological effects that will arise are heart palpitations, shortness of breath, and faster blood flow. You actually feel all these things when you feel hatred or attracted to someone. This then makes it very easy for someone to fall in love and finally hate them quickly, because the symptoms are the same at that time.
Love takes time, it can't be as fast as lightning
Maybe the thing that made your hatred appear so suddenly was that you concluded too quickly that you were in love. Yes, liking and being attracted to someone is actually natural but of course that doesn't mean love.
Love is a process, especially if you want to be with him and spend the rest of the time with your partner. Love not only gets something from a partner that makes you happy, but also understands the character and understands it
If you are in a rush to fall in love and then discover your partner's flaws and you are not ready to accept them, it could be that the love you previously said has turned into hate.
Falling in love too quickly can be just a momentary feeling that ultimately makes you not feel the pleasure and beauty of a relationship.
It can also interfere with the romance between you and your partner. Usually people who fall in love quickly, will often be excited about the relationship at the beginning and easily get bored and seem lazy at the end of the relationship.
Better to just take it slow and enjoy the time you and your partner approach you until you and your partner both feel ready to commit.
