Have you equipped your young women to be tough women?

Who doesn't know the figure of Indonesia's female national hero, R.A. Kartini? His figure is well known, but unfortunately girls and young women sometimes find it difficult to imitate R. A. Kartini in everyday life.

In fact, R. A. Kartini has provided a very good example of how every woman should behave in society: opinionated, tough, and caring. Especially in a society that adheres to a patriarchal culture, where men are often considered to have higher rights and positions than women. Like it or not, young women who will grow up to be women still have to continue the struggle of R. A. Kartini in advancing women's emancipation.

For that, as a parent you need to prepare and educate your young women to become tough and courageous figures in line with the times. Here are five important points that you need to instill so that your young women can emulate R. A. Kartini and other tough women.

1. Teach young women to deal with stress

You will remember, being a teenager is not easy. There are various challenges and sources of stress that must be faced on a daily basis. If not trained early on, your young woman will be overwhelmed by future stress and will not be mentally strong enough.

So, what you need to do is equip it with various ways to manage stress healthily. For example, instead of scolding a child when he has a lot of thoughts, approach the child and talk carefully about the problems that bully him. Listen to his complaints without judging or finding fault with the child. Also entertain himself with words that motivate and give hope.

Then invite your teens to find solutions or channel their emotions by exercising, pursuing hobbies such as music, writing, and others. Show that stress is a normal part of life. Stress is not always an enemy to be afraid of. That way, if one day your teenager faces a big problem, he will face it with courage like R. A. Kartini who is not afraid to overcome many challenges in his life.

2. Ask his opinion

As your young women grow older, usually the child's identity begins to take shape. Now, show him that his thoughts and opinions on trivial to serious things are very important to you. Encourage your child to have the courage to express their opinion and talk about what they believe is on their mind.

Through this open communication you are increasing your child's self-esteem and self-confidence. The most important thing is to listen to, respond to, and respect your daughter's opinion. In addition, try to provoke her from time to time to invite her to discuss issues and events around the world, especially regarding her views on the roles of men and women in society.

That way you can find out what is on his mind about it and respond with relevant things while incorporating the values of empowerment and gender equality in your conversation.

Don't even mute the voice of the child, for example by saying, "Ah, what do you know, a little kid?" or, “You are a child, inappropriate by the way so!".

3. Encourage children to pursue their dreams

Encourage your young woman to continue to develop and explore herself and her abilities. Do not forget, invite children to try other things out of the ordinary so that their minds are always open. Let him take the risk and follow his impulses.

Suppose your daughter loves tinkering with machines and is eager to study engineering in college. Support this dream so that she grows up to be a confident and talented woman like R. A. Kartini who truly believes that she is able to establish a school for all children, especially girls.

4. It is impossible to please everyone

Don't forget, remind your child that his life is not to please everyone. They don't have to say yes and obey for everyone. They have the right to be themselves and the right to make decisions for themselves, although not everyone likes those decisions.

As long as the decisions taken are correct and do not harm themselves and others, they have the right to make these decisions. Teach children that they need to listen to their feelings and instincts before deciding and agreeing to anything.

5. Be a good example

The best way to educate your young woman to be strong and resilient is to set a direct example. If you are not a role model for him, then all the words you blow up foam are meaningless.

Children tend to imitate what their parents do. The behavior of you and your partner in responding and doing various things will be a guideline that will stick strongly in the child's brain. Therefore, you must instill positive and empowering values yourself.