Having sex with husband and wife should be scheduled, why?

When do you and your partner usually do sexual intercourse? Most people generally answer, "If I happen to just want to," or, "If I'm not tired." So far, sex is considered as an activity that occurs spontaneously and cannot be regulated. The problem is, many couples put off sex sessions because they often bump into all kinds of activities outside the bedroom.

So, you both have to schedule regular sex sessions on the calendar and agree on it. If you keep procrastinating waiting for the right time, in the end both of you are constantly absent so that the bed business gets neglected. No wonder so many couples who only have intercourse only 1-2 times a year. In fact, sex is one of the main keys to household harmony.

Why do you have to have intercourse regularly scheduled

The assumption that having sex is always spontaneous is a myth. If you want a home that is intimate and always passionate about it, then you have to take the time to adjust and look forward to it.

Scheduling an intimate relationship can be like planning a vacation. You have to think about what to buy or carry in the suitcase. You also have to first decide where your vacation destination is, when is the right time to leave, schedule work leave, and don't forget to book flight tickets and hotel rooms. If you want to take the time to make vacation plans, why not sex?

Scheduling time for sex is actually the best way to make your moments together more romantic and fun without a burden. Just like making a schedule meeting office with clients, scheduling sex on the calendar in person will allow you to free up time and make it a mutually agreed priority.

Scheduling an intimate relationship will also make the two of you take the time to talk about sex that you are looking forward to, for example to discuss when is the right day, where to have sex, what you both wanted to do before (romantic dinner or a movie) , to designing scenarios to realize your sexual fantasies both. Ultimately, this routine can help strengthen your bond as husband and wife.

What's more, you become even more filled with a thrilling sense of waiting to (finally) be able to spend time together with your partner. During the countdown until the D-day arrives, you can start foreplay to continue to build sex drive. For example, by planning which sexy lingerie you want to wear, buying (and trying on) sex toys, making a romantic surprise, or by texting each other with sex messages. So that when the time comes, your lovemaking session can be an unforgettable experience.

Apart from that, scheduling also helps us to manage our time and energy. For example, if it is set on a certain date, don't spend all day cooking or overtime at the office. That way when the time comes, you will not be too tired and finally leave the "responsibility".

How do I schedule sex?

Determine how often you and your partner will have intercourse

Even though this is not easy, try to agree and take a middle ground if you and your partner have different expectations.

Determine the time

Choose a day when you and your partner are both less busy. If all is full, consult to discuss prioritizing. There may be plans that need to be canceled or moved. However, it's best to schedule it in such a way so as not to crash. Mark the agreed day on the calendar.

Mark it on the calendar

Use a calendar your partner has access to, whether it's a hanging calendar in your room or an electronic calendar. The important thing is that you and your partner can access the schedule and indeed the calendar that is seen every day.

Keep your promises

The plan will not materialize, if one of you does not comply with the promise that was both agreed upon. If you break a promise with your partner, this means you consider him not important in your life. This is a wrong first step and needs to be corrected immediately.

Ultimately, scheduling sexual intercourse can increase the urge to have sex spontaneously.