Table of contents:
- A sign that you are in bad company
- 1. You doubt the established beliefs
- 2. Always "he" is a concern
- 3. You are no longer comfortable
- 4. Hate yourself when you are with him
Never heard of the term toxic friendship? This term, in previous science lessons, was also known as symbiotic parasitism, which is a reciprocal relationship in which only one party benefits, while the other is disadvantaged. Yes, if the friendship is working against you, chances are that you are in toxic friendship. However, do you know what are the signs of this bad friendship?
A sign that you are in bad company
Not all relationships work well, you might as well get caught up in it. This friendship allows one party to think that your best friend or friend is no longer the right person for you.
According to Andrea Bonior, a psychologist and author of a book entitledThe Friendship Fix: The Complete Guide to Choosing, Losing, and Keeping Up With Your Friends,mention that this kind of relationship is detrimental. Unfortunately, many people don't realize it because the signs of a bad friendship are often subtle.
These bad friendships can make someone sad, anxious, stressed out, even not giving you the positive things you want. According to the Counseling Directory page, friendship like this you must end because it only makes one uncomfortable and depressed, in this case it could be you.
Before taking action, check and recheck your friendship. Look for some signs of bad and leading friendshiptoxic friendshipthe following.
1. You doubt the established beliefs
Friendships and friendships are built on trust. The reason is, you and your friends may be keeping secrets from each other. If trust in one is lost, the relationship will not last long.
This fading trust is usually preceded by lies or broken promises. Every now and then you or your friends must have lied or broken promises. However, afterwards you will try your best to stay away from these two things.
If you have any doubts about your friend, chances are that your trust is starting to wear off. This can be an early sign that your friendship is no longer healthy and possibly have a negative impact on your life.
2. Always "he" is a concern
Making friends isn't just about him, it's also the other way around. If whatever is done together, the edges rests on your friends or friends, without paying attention to your considerations, this could indicate a toxic friendship.
For example, place and time hangout tailored to your friends' wishes regardless of your location and schedule.
If you find your friends or friends do this a lot, this could be a sign of a bad friendship.
The reason is, you are in a position where you must always struggle, adjust, and comply with his every wish.
3. You are no longer comfortable
Spending time with friends will definitely make you feel a lot better. Not only joking, you can also tell the complaints you feel.
However, if you feel uncomfortable spending time with him, this could be a sign of a bad friendship. You feel anxious, worried, and afraid of every reaction he will show to what you do.
For example, "I want to say this, but I'm afraid he will be angry, what should I do?" It is normal to have thoughts like this, it means you appreciate how they feel.
However, if this happens continuously to the point of stressing you out, be aware that these are signs toxic friendship in your friendship.
4. Hate yourself when you are with him
Not only is it uncomfortable, but a sign of a bad friendship can lead to feelings of self-loathing. Especially, when you are with that friend or best friend.
This feeling of guilt arises because you can't express your emotions to your friend freely. It can also be caused by your friend's inappropriate attitude, but you pretend to agree with and support it.
Feelings of guilt like that which, if you keep it for longer, can cause hatred in yourself.
