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Once cheating, you will definitely cheat again and again. This one stigma has been deeply embedded in society. Yes, no one wants to be cheated by the partner he loves, especially if the relationship has been around for a long time. However, is this stigma true? Is there a theory to support it? Read on for the following reviews.
Expert opinion about the possibility of cheating again
Infidelity is one of the causes of the collapse of a relationship, especially when a partner has cheated on you many times. How not, people who cheat means not upholding loyalty and violating the partner's trust. There are many reasons people cheat, but the main thing is feeling dissatisfied in their relationship.
Reporting from the Men's Health page, a study from the University of Denver tested 484 people (68 percent of whom were women) regarding their love relationships. The results of the study, which have been published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior, show that as many as 44 percent of participants admit to having cheated with feelings, and some even have sex with other people without their partner's knowledge. In addition, as many as 30 percent of participants reported that they were cheated by their partner.
The researchers found that participants who had previously cheated on them were 3 times more likely to cheat again than people who had never cheated. So what about those who are victims of infidelity? It turns out that when they realized that they had been cheated on, they felt that the likelihood of their partner cheating again was 2 times greater than those of them having a loyal partner.
Another study conducted in 2016 also supports these findings. The reason is, as many as 30 percent of people who have cheated on them tend to cheat again. Meanwhile, only 13 percent of people cheat on their partners when they have never cheated before.
According to Matt Garrett of the Huffington Post, to predict a person's future behavior, look at their past behavior patterns. This means that people who have cheated on you in the past will have the possibility to cheat again in the future.
However, this is not a fixed price. Of course there are so many factors that determine a person's behavior. Even so, there is nothing wrong with making this theory a warning to you or your partner who has cheated. Whether it's just being tempted for a moment or actually cheating.
Can people who have cheated be trusted?
Between being loyal and the trauma of being betrayed, you may be hesitating about whether or not to stay loyal to your cheating partner. According to Frank Dattilio, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist from Pennsylvania, United States you can only find the answer through healthy communication with your partner.
If your partner evades after there is strong evidence, then your partner does not really appreciate the loyalty and trust that you have given. Meanwhile, if your partner admits his mistakes and really shows a change in attitude, you may consider learning to trust him again.
Remember, there is always the possibility that your partner will actually quit the habit of cheating so you should give yourself a chance to start a new page. So, invite your partner to take certain therapy or counseling to overcome problems in self-control and appreciate loyalty.
The reason is, marriage therapy or counseling, for example, can make someone admit what caused them to have an affair and help solve the main problem. However, this must be based on a strong will and intention to improve.
