Table of contents:
- Quarrel with girlfriend, have to break up or endure?
- 1. Have real, compelling reasons to break up
- 2. Expect your partner to always know what you want
- 3. Be alone first, then think again about what to do
Fighting with girlfriends or partners is common. Usually, this is due to differences in opinion between the two. However, for those of you who have just experienced a big fight like the third world war, this will definitely make you think.
Yes, think whether the partner you are currently with is the right person for you or not. Finally, you begin to doubt whether to continue the relationship or end it. For those of you who are in that period, you can do and consider the following things. These are the things that you can take into consideration, whether your relationship can still be continued or not.
Quarrel with girlfriend, have to break up or endure?
From several surveys that have been conducted, there are as many as 70% of people who have thought about breaking up their partner after experiencing an argument. However, breaking up is not that easy to do.
In fact, most of those who have thought about breaking up with their partner feel more afraid if they are alone and have to let their partner go. Then, do you have to break up or endure after experiencing a fight, even though a big fight? Check out some things that you should consider before making decisions after fighting with your boyfriend or partner.
1. Have real, compelling reasons to break up
Many people who experience problems and want to break up with their partners, actually do not have sufficient reason to separate. Yes, most of it is done on the basis of the emotions and egos that each one has. You have to find a fairly real and compelling reason if you want to leave your relationship without regrets in the future.
There are several strong reasons that you can base your decision on, for example, your partner cheats, lies frequently, often physically abuses you, has an addiction to something and can't control it, or even your partner doesn't want children while you want him to.
If you do have one of these reasons, then you can consider ending your current relationship. However, if you just want to break up and have no reason, then your relationship is actually still fine and all you need to do is communicate with your partner. If necessary, give space so that you and your partner can introspect yourself.
2. Expect your partner to always know what you want
Many couples decide to separate because they think their partner does not understand him. In fact, maybe you yourself are not open enough about your feelings and thoughts to your partner. You just hope and demand that your partner understands you without being told.
If your argument arises because you feel your partner doesn't understand you - even though you didn't say it yourself - then try to be more open to your partner. Remember, a relationship with a lover can only work well if the two are mutually open, instead of assuming each other and harboring expectations.
3. Be alone first, then think again about what to do
Yes, as previously mentioned. If you've been arguing or fighting with your boyfriend too many times, it's a good idea to give each other space to cool off and calm down. This is needed by every partner, so that they can think better again and not get carried away by emotions.
If indeed after you've calmed down and then, still feel that you are doing the wrong thing too - not just your partner - then it might be better to fix it first rather than breaking up. Communicate what you feel and the regret you feel when undergoing self-introspection, then solve the problem with a cool head with your partner.
Moreover, if you are calming down and then feel nostalgic for your partner, then of course you can maintain this relationship. Again, communication is the key to a healthy relationship.
