What is it like to date a narcissist?

Not all narcissists have a narcissistic personality. You know, what's the difference? Of course very different! Narcissist is a modern term popularized by young people to describe someone who is too confident about himself, and especially those who like to take selfies and show off photos of themselves on various social media accounts. On the other hand, narcissistic personality is a personality disorder that is equally recognized by the DSM and the PPDGJ, the psychology manual on mental disorders. What does it feel like if you are dating a narcissist?

What are the symptoms of narcissism personality disorder?

Narcissistic personality is not the same as self-confidence. Self-confidence is built on the basis of successes and achievements, life skills that have been mastered, principles and norms that are firmly held, and the care shown to others.

Meanwhile, narcissistic people who are caused by narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) usually show arrogant behavior, lack of empathy for others, thirst for praise, manipulative attitude, and are fond of demanding something without respecting the feelings of others. This personality disorder makes sufferers feel very confident that they are right and deserve special treatment from those around them.

This arrogant aura stems from jealousy, fragile self-esteem, and a fear of failure or fear of showing one's weaknesses. Narcissists will go to great lengths to bring down their opponents in order to outperform others. Narcissists (in the real sense, not a modern pun) cannot appreciate criticism, while people who are truly self-confident will improve their abilities even more when facing constructive criticism.

Narcissism personality disorder is owned by 1% of the world's population. Reporting from Medical News Today, 7.7% of men and 4.8% of women in the world show narcissistic personality traits. Narcissistic personality disorder can cause many problems, including in work, school, financial relationships, and can even interfere with romantic relationships.

What are the signs if I am dating a narcissist (NPD)?

1. Always talk about himself

One of the easiest ways to find out if your partner is a narcissist or not (in this context, showing symptoms of narcissistic personality disorder) is to listen to him or her tell a story.

Narcissists will almost always dominate conversations whose topics are only about themselves, for example about the achievements they get, the activities they do and make people jealous, to focus on their body appearance and even their sexual performance. The way he tells stories is very exaggerated and the essence of the story is grandiose, as if he describes him as being on a higher level than the listeners.

It's not just her friends who can get tired of hearing it, you are her partner too. You're not even given the opportunity to talk about personal conditions, because he won't hear you.

2. Looks charming and romantic at first

Intimate and romantic at the beginning of the PDKT period is normal, even so narcissists take advantage of this time to get their potential partner to give what they want. In fact, he is not necessarily genuinely interested in his potential girlfriend.

Over time it will appear that some narcissists are very selfish and selfish. They expect their partners to always meet their needs. For example, simply put, they always order you to answer SMS or phone calls from him immediately. All things and activities that are done together must also be centered on him and follow his wishes.

3. React negatively when you don't give them what they want

Most narcissists can't stand disappointment or rejection. They will react negatively when their partner can't give them what they want, in the way they want. The person will be angry, blame, ridicule, to make his partner feel unworthy of being side with him

4. Keep dropping

The narcissist's high ego and arrogant attitude will keep him feeling the best, so he will always try to belittle those around him - including you. He considers other people to be incompetent, clueless, and incompetent to do something.

He also doesn't like it when other people are better than him. And so, he kept saying downsliding things about that person.

5. Likes to break the rules

People generally obey the rules in order to enjoy a quiet life. Unlike someone who has a narcissistic personality. Narcissists actually enjoy committing violations, for example, such as slipping in line, stealing office supplies, breaking promises they have made, or disobeying traffic rules. Narcissists feel proud when they do this and do not get caught, because they feel they are above the law.

6. Always put their rights first

Everyone has personal rights. But people with narcissistic personality disorder demand their rights more than they should. Narcissists expect to receive special behavior from others. They also expect people to always meet their needs.

In their mindset, the world revolves around them. For example, consider the way he treats waiters in restaurants, waiters in his house or staff in his office. He tends to order or give orders like a king who cannot be matched.

If this is the case, you need to be careful. This arrogant treatment is not limited to strangers such as waiters or restaurant staff, even to those closest to them such as their girlfriends. This trait can certainly damage your relationship, especially if he continues to force you to have sex even though you are clearly saying no. He may use various tricks to get what he wants. (Beware of dating violence and rape in the household)

7. Manipulate others to make himself look great

Some narcissists will use their girlfriends to fulfill their own unreasonable needs, to fulfill unattainable ambitions, or to cover up their flaws and flaws.

He felt impatient to show his friends around him and make them jealous. Narcissists tend to overstep and manipulate others without consideration and sensitivity, because they feel proud to be that way.