Table of contents:
- Here's how to apologize to your partner so you can quickly reconcile them
- 1. Admit your mistakes
- 2. Apologize sincerely
- 3. Position yourself as a partner
- 4. Don't get carried away with emotions
- 5. Do not hesitate to apologize over and over again
- 6. Give your partner time
Apologizing looks easy on the tongue, but it's hard to do. Moreover, apologize to the partner. Sometimes, an overly high ego can make us feel proud to apologize first. Even to the point of inevitably putting aside the feelings of the him who may have been disappointed with your actions. Then the end? The two of you could just get into a big fight because neither one wants to back down. In fact, problems can be resolved quickly without having to tug your nerves if you know how to apologize the right way, really!
Here's how to apologize to your partner so you can quickly reconcile them
1. Admit your mistakes
Don't expect the relationship that you have with your partner will always run smoothly without a hitch. In some cases, there will be times when you make mistakes that make your partner angry. Vice versa.
Instead of having to fight endlessly, try to be kind enough to apologize first and admit what you did wrong (even if the argument was not your fault).
The assumption is this, when you dare to make a mistake, be it on purpose or not, you should also have the guts to apologize and admit the mistake. I see, right?
2. Apologize sincerely
What is the meaning of a relationship that has been built for so long but both parties cannot understand each other. Especially when one of you is feeling sad and angry.
Put aside all the ego, shame, and pride that surrounds you and make a sincere apology from your heart.
Explain what really happened without coming off as overwhelming. Also give complete reasons why this could happen without being covered up.
As much as possible, try not to defend yourself because you are afraid that it will only add to the problem for both of you. Instead, show your seriousness in apologizing and make sure the incident will not happen again in the future.
3. Position yourself as a partner
Sometimes, it's hard to apologize because you don't feel like there's anything wrong with you. Or to put it another way, you think everything is fine. Even though in fact your partner is feeling disappointed over your previous attitudes and actions.
If this is the case, try to position yourself as a partner. Think carefully about the possibilities you would feel when faced with a situation like that of your partner.
For example, your partner feels you are too close to coworkers at work but you feel the opposite. In your opinion, the closeness of you and that person is only limited to co-workers and nothing more.
Now, try to think and position yourself as a partner with all the behaviors that you have ever done to this coworker. Will your response remain the same and take it for granted?
4. Don't get carried away with emotions
After you dare to admit your mistakes sincerely, then don't get carried away with emotions if your partner is not completely satisfied with your explanation.
Like a fire smothered in oil, the flames of anger will spread everywhere if you add to your emotions "sprinkling them".
Instead of forcing him to accept your apology, calm yourself first. Close your eyes and breathe slowly before continuing to speak to drown out your emotions. Shaking off your emotions in the wrong way can get the two of you into new trouble.
5. Do not hesitate to apologize over and over again
Sometimes it takes a little more effort to "make amends" for mistakes that result from complicated problems. Don't be discouraged if your partner seems to ignore your apology at first.
It's okay to apologize several times until your partner's heart breaks, especially for serious mistakes. But remember, don't come across as pushy and whining. Make sure each of your apologies is truly sincere from the heart.
This way of apologizing will make your partner see how serious you are and how sorry you are. Over time, your trust will once again take root in your love affair.
6. Give your partner time
It is the same with PDKT which needs a process, so forgiveness is the same. You can't force your partner to forgive you right away after apologizing.
Forcing your partner to forgive can actually mess up their emotions and make your partner even angrier. Of course you don't want this to happen, do you?
Look at the situation and condition. If your partner wants to be alone first, respect his decision. Give him time to think and calm down. If he already shows signs of wanting to make peace, then you can approach him again.
