Table of contents:
- The main mistake men make when trying to satisfy a partner
- 1. Skipping foreplay
- 2. Treat the clitoris like a penis
- 3. Too much trust in porn movies
- 4. Repeating the same trick
- 5. Sex is only for your own orgasm
Every man believes with all his soul that they are alinya in bed. When in fact each of us (yes, including you!) At least have made one or two small, but fatal mistakes, which might extinguish the romance between you and the other person, and even thwart efforts to satisfy your partner.
There are many misconceptions about sex and sexuality, especially when it comes to women. Naturally, men often feel confused about the best way to satisfy a partner in bed.
The main mistake men make when trying to satisfy a partner
So, starting from a determination to provide more rocking sex and even stronger relationship intimacy, here are some of the most common mistakes men make in bed and what you can do to fix them.
1. Skipping foreplay
Yes, sometimes sex can happen so fast. But in general, the flame of a woman's sexual arousal is not as fast as a man who can burn as easily as turning the palm of her hand.
Take more time to indulge in her erogenous zones - kissing, whispering love stories, making her sexual fantasies come true, giving her breast stimulation, or giving her a hickey around her neck. Even the simple act of cuddling can stimulate oxytocin, the female sex hormone that creates an instinct for closeness and trust.
Do not rush to end foreplay. Make sure you enjoy this warm-up too; a woman knows when her partner sincerely loves and appreciates every inch of her body. There is nothing more exciting for a woman than knowing that you are turned on by her body by touching, caressing, and kissing her everywhere.
2. Treat the clitoris like a penis
A woman's body is different from a man's. Don't try to treat her genitals the way you treat yourself. Find out what kind of touch he likes best. Take your time so that she doesn't feel rushed. Don't switch to penetration too quickly.
Most women can reach orgasm through clitoral stimulation prior to vaginal penetration. Of course, this doesn't mean women can't enjoy another orgasm during intercourse. But remember: every woman is different; some are able to reach orgasm through penetration, and some are not.
3. Too much trust in porn movies
Most men act as guides in sexual relationships. And in some cases when a woman takes the initiative to lead, she will be directed to how she should act. Don't assume that just because you saw a woman moaning so badly on your favorite porn site (for example the actor biting her nipple hard, grabbing her, or pushing her head hard during blowjob) that this is what your loved one also wants. This method can be effective at times, but most of the time it is not.
Porn movies are unrealistic and these aggressive actions can cause pain and discomfort. So it's no wonder more and more women are "giving up" and choosing to fake orgasms. So, you may not realize that the he actually does not enjoy sex. Women don't want to feel like they are obliged to look and act like adult film actresses. Every woman tends to have personal choices about how they want to engage in sex.
Make sure you know what satisfies your partner and what doesn't. Don't be afraid to ask questions like "How did it feel?" or "Do you want something different?" to show you care. Let him lead every now and then, and make sure all his needs are met.
4. Repeating the same trick
Don't stick to the assumption that, "If this method has worked once, it will definitely continue to work," says sex therapist Sari Cooper, LCSW, quoted by WebMD.
What might be exciting for her the first time, might be completely different the next time - it all depends on her mood and where she is in her monthly cycle. In the moments approaching her menstrual cycle, a woman's nipples will become more sensitive, or maybe her vagina will feel more numb, Cooper added.
However, also pay attention to your partner's reaction every time you try a new trick. If you see that one trick is successful in leading him to climax, keep going. Women often complain that men are busy being pursued when they move on to the next maneuver, even though they are really enjoying the maneuver.
5. Sex is only for your own orgasm
30 seconds to 10 minutes is the average time it takes for a man to climax. For most women, orgasms can become real after about 20 minutes - and penetrative sex is not enough to get them to the top. Why not? Because most sex positions do not directly stimulate the clitoris.
There are other ways to satisfy your partner. "Women will have more consistent orgasms from oral sex than from vaginal penetration," says Ian Kerner, PhD., A sex therapist. Of course this does not mean that women cannot enjoy other orgasms during sexual intercourse. Just remember, every woman is different; some have vaginal orgasms and some don't. Also, try sex with the woman on top, and let her take the lead.
To help him reach the climax, it's okay to take a few moments to pamper your partner in the warm-up round before you get into it. The closer women are to the gate of orgasm when they are just starting penetration, the greater their chances of having an orgasm, says Lonnie Barbach, PhD, a psychologist. One note: don't complain or question when she will have an orgasm or how much longer you have to do what you are doing. This will only turn off his passion - and piss him off with you.
There is always a glimmer of hope behind every mistake, and you can learn from your mistakes for a more amazing love experience to satisfy your future partner.
