Table of contents:
- How to build a good relationship with your ex-wife / husband
- 1. Do not demonize your partner in front of children
- 2. Focus on the child's future
- 3. Forgive yourself and your ex
- 4. Arrange time with children
Maintaining friendship with ex-wife or husband after divorce is never easy. Some couples may separate so badly that it seems a little impossible to have a good relationship. But even if it's difficult, you and your ex-partner still have to try to have a good relationship after the divorce. Especially if you and your partner already have a baby. Remember, the role of parents is very important for the future of your child.
So, how can you do this? Check out the tips below.
How to build a good relationship with your ex-wife / husband
1. Do not demonize your partner in front of children
You may feel resentful, angry, and disappointed with your ex-partner. However, never show these feelings in front of your child. Moreover, to bring up your bad qualities or even humiliate your partner.
Talking badly about your ex-spouse means that you also think negatively about your child. The reason is, the child is part of your ex-partner. Whatever happens it will not change.
So don't let your emotions take over by telling your children about your ex-spouse's mistakes or other things that put your ex-partner into a corner.
These various things will actually make children feel hatred. Either he will side with you or even side with your partner.
2. Focus on the child's future
Instead of saving a lot of negative energy on your ex-wife / husband, it's best to use that energy on something more positive, such as preparing for your child's future. Even though you are no longer together, you both have full responsibility for your child's future.
Discuss plans about education savings to child health insurance. Calculate well how much it will cost per month for both of these. If necessary, you can involve the services of a financial planner (financial adviser) so that your child's financing is more structured and planned.
So, whether you live with you or your ex-partner, it's important to talk about your child's future and think about it carefully.
3. Forgive yourself and your ex
Guilt, anger, and hatred are not behaviors that should be defended. Do your best to make peace with both yourself and your ex.
Although difficult to do, forgiving mistakes yourself and even your ex-spouse is very important to build good relationships after a divorce.
Learn to let go of negative feelings so that you and your ex-partner can both rise from adversity.
4. Arrange time with children
In many cases, child custody matters are often disastrous after divorce. To avoid this, you and your ex-partner should discuss carefully and cool heads. If necessary, involve a lawyer to help choose the best way.
However, regardless of who gets custody of the child later, each of you has the right to meet and enjoy time with your child.
Remember, your child wants to keep loving you and enjoying time together. So, avoid thinking that the child is too partial because they prefer to live in your home or your ex-partner
If your child is at your ex-partner's house, take the time tochat, calling, and telling whatever children and parents should. Likewise, when the child is at your house, remind him to tell the father / mother news.
