Table of contents:
- How about having fast sex?
- 1. Do lots of kissing
- 2. Keep your clothes on
- 3. Change places
- 4. Do what is in fantasy
- 5. Narrate the hot action
- 6. Send sensual signals
- 7. Arrange the place where you plan to have sex
- 8. Consider sex without sexual intercourse
- 9. Use a vibrator
- 10. Watch your position
Have you ever had fast sex? Hmm, how does that feel? We all know that satisfying sex is one that involves foreplay, it can be a kiss, a massage, a pampering touch, or some play. However, when we have limited time, even short sex can be a challenging choice. Sometimes quick sex is also done when one partner can't wait. But can fast sex make you and your partner feel connected? Then how do you do it so that it has the same meaning as regular sex.
How about having fast sex?
Based on a survey of sex therapists from Canada and America, published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine, fast sex or quickie does not involve heating (foreplay), usually lasting about 3 to 13 minutes. Maybe in romantic novels, old sex scenes can feel very sensual, but often in real life, marathon sex that lasts too long makes one partner wonder when it will end, or they become bored. Fast sex will be a challenge in itself because you don't need to feel pressured to have the best sex. But what you need to do is catch up with time, for that there are a few tricks you can try, such as:
1. Do lots of kissing
Speed sex does not seem like a warm-up, but that doesn't mean you have to skip the kiss. According to Patti Britton, PhD, sex coach in Los Angeles, quoted by the site Health, passion can arise quickly by kissing. In addition, kissing also stimulates the nervous system and the endocrine system - producing hormones that stimulate arousal. Don't skip the brief warm-up, as this can also make the relationship feel more intimate.
2. Keep your clothes on
This is one quick sex trick you can try, why are you wasting your time undressing? According to Joel Block, PhD, psychologist and relationship consultant for CanDoBetter.com, quoted by the Health website, the clothes you both wear will add to your passionate passion. This will create a sense of despair to belong to each other.
3. Change places
To increase enthusiasm, don't do it in one place. You can do this in different places. For example, you can do it in the bathroom, then move to the kitchen, then move to the bed. Still according to Block, sex gets hotter when there is a risk of fear of being caught. Even if there is no one around you, do it in an unusual place where people might suddenly come or pass by, so that the tense sensation will be even more pronounced. Also make sure the place does not present danger.
4. Do what is in fantasy
Still according to Britton, who was quoted by the Health site, "Fantasy can stimulate sexual response psychologically because your body will indirectly imitate what the brain thinks." In addition, this fantasy can also make you free from distraction. Even though you are in your own room, just imagine as if you are on an exotic vacation on a romantic island. You know exactly what to do next.
5. Narrate the hot action
Another way you and your partner can focus on each other is to stay in touch during hot action, whether it's just sweet talk, or 'flirtatious' chats. Still according to Block, communication during the action proves that you and your partner still have a spark of love. Just say what you want to do or say, make the narrative just as good as your action. But avoid talking too long, this will make the situation awkward. Easy is not the way to fast sex?
6. Send sensual signals
You can start a warm up with a flirtatious message, telling your partner that you really want to "play". According to Allison, Ph.D, author of the book The Mystery of the Undercover Clitoris, quoted by the Women's Health website, let your partner know what is on your mind by sending tantalizing messages, emails or photos to your partner. When you and your partner meet, your passion is already on. You can just have quick sex.
7. Arrange the place where you plan to have sex
You may not have the time, but there is nothing wrong with arranging the place, such as giving fragrances to the room, putting on music that can 'cheer up' your partner, maybe you want to put lotion around the 'place of action' so there's no need to look around anymore. You can also attach a mirror in the bathroom, if previously there wasn't a mirror there. During sex and looking in the mirror can make the atmosphere even hotter.
8. Consider sex without sexual intercourse
If you are a woman aged 40 years and over, you may have painful intercourse. You need additional lubrication. But besides that there are other ways to make love briefly, without a vaginal erection, such as oral sex, handjobs, or other maneuvers. Of course, this sex will not take long.
9. Use a vibrator
Sometimes the fast-paced sex scene can make it difficult for a girl to have an orgasm. A vibrator can be an alternative. The vibrations generated by the vibrator can also stimulate the male. Make sure you keep the vibrator clean and buy it from a trusted place.
10. Watch your position
According to Monica Lieser, a licensed marriage and family therapist and co-author of the book 14 Days of Foreplay, quoted by the Men's Health website, men can have quick sex with standing sex positions, of course it's also good for women, because you will have access to kiss them. Also listen to what women want. You can also smell her body scent, such as her back, face, and chest / breasts. Lieser thinks the reason for getting sex fast is intense passion.
