Table of contents:
- How to convince your partner when the LDR starts to wobble
- 1. Always talk and be open about any problem
- 2. Listen to your partner complaining about your attitude
- 3. Take time to doquality time
- 4. Make a mutual commitment
Fostering long distance alias relationships long distance relationship(LDR), of course, is different from close relationships. The distance and the lack of meetings often lead to bickering, to shake the partner's trust. After struggling this far, giving up is certainly not the way out that you and your partner wanted, right? Some of the following ways may be able to convince your LDR partner when the relationship seems to start on the edge.
How to convince your partner when the LDR starts to wobble
Many people say, distance is not a barrier to a relationship. But sometimes, there will be one or more issues that were pebbles in your relationship during the LDR.
What's more, distance and time may not always be on your side. In contrast to close-range couples who can meet at any time, two lovebirds who undergo LDR must be more patient.
In order to be more convincing for your partner to stay afloat and fight together during the LDR, here are some ways you can try:
1. Always talk and be open about any problem
Honesty is the main key in a relationship, especially when you and your partner are currently in a long-distance relationship. The reason is, not a few LDR couples are often afflicted with suspicion and anxiety about their partners.
Chris Pleines, a relationship expert, advises you to always be open about anything to your partner during the LDR. When there are problems or things that are stuck in your heart and mind, try to discuss them together with your partner. After that, find the best solution to the problem that both of you are facing.
Daring to be honest with your partner shows that you are not covering him up with anything. By having discussions together with openness to each other, it is hoped that this can be a way to convince yourself and your partner more during LDR.
2. Listen to your partner complaining about your attitude
Not being able to physically touch your partner, doesn't mean you can't show how much you feel and believe with your partner. Want to listen to all the grievances and complaints of each other, can actually be another form of expression to show that you appreciate their existence.
When you are in trouble, for example because of your mistake and it makes him less sure about the LDR relationship, prepare a pair of ears to accommodate all the babbling. Because, maybe this is all you can do when the distance separates you and your partner.
Being willing to listen to and understand your partner's grievances can be a material for self-evaluation. This includes avoiding things your partner doesn't like.
For example, ask your partner to call or video call for 30 minutes, and ask him to tell if there is anything blocking his feelings.
The rest, make the evaluation an attempt to change your attitude which might be the reason for the argument. That way, it is hoped that this method can help convince your partner to continue to foster good relationships during LDR.
3. Take time to doquality time
Of the many lovers who have successfully run long-distance relationships, some of them may inevitably have to die in the middle of the road. There are various reasons for this, one of which can happen is because they feel their partner is too busy to get them qualitytime.
Especially when your relationship is faltering due to certain issues,quality time can be a way to more convincing partner's trust during LDR. If usually you or your partner are too busy with a myriad of daily activities, now try to lower your respective egos to spare a little time.
For example, you could come home early from work to call your partner at night. Or another option, if possible you can arrange a schedule and work and then take a short break to see him.
After months of distance and time apart from your partner, take advantage of the few days you have to spend time with him. This method can also help convince your partner that you are really serious about having a relationship even though you are apart.
4. Make a mutual commitment
Before you dare to decide to want to build a long-distance relationship, you and your partner must first make a commitment together at the beginning. However, as your LDR goes on, coupled with the emergence of one or more problems, your partner's trust can diminish.
Now, here is where it is necessary to rebuild that commitment which may have begun to fade. It's just that, the commitment that you both need to make back is more about trying to avoid things that can trigger a fight with your partner.
Take for example this. If you have previously been caught dishonest with your partner about wanting to not communicate for a while. However, this is only an excuse so that you can play games all day.
Even though it sounds trivial, it's best to make a commitment and don't repeat it again as a way to convince your partner during LDR. Even after discussing and sharing each other's grievances, you certainly know better what things your partner doesn't like.
Make it a "guide" for self-evaluation and action. Don't forget, too, ask your partner to remind each other to keep the commitments you have made together.
