Table of contents:
- Anxious people tend to depend on their partners
- On the other hand, they can even avoid their partner
- Tips for overcoming the effects of excessive anxiety to maintain a harmonious relationship
- 1. Find the cause of anxiety
- 2. Practice listening
- 3. Think only of positive things
People with anxiety disorders (GAD orgeneralized anxiety disorder) tends to face difficult times during his life. The reason is, his heart and mind are always filled with anxiety so he feels uneasy. Even though everything on his mind is not necessarily true or will happen. The effect of excessive anxiety is not only for the sufferer, but also for the partner. So, how does excessive anxiety affect a romantic relationship with a partner? Here's the explanation.
Anxious people tend to depend on their partners
Some people with GAD feel that they really need their partner or best friend. The reason is, they believe that their partner and people around him will provide support to him. Because of this, people with GAD can become very dependent or dependent on their partners.
However, the effects of excessive anxiety can lead to mistrust or paranoia. For example, feeling suspicious when your partner doesn't respond chat quickly, fear that your partner might suddenly become unfaithful, and various other worries. In a friendship relationship, the person with GAD may think that his best friend is talking about it in the background.
People who experience excessive anxiety are also more susceptible to negative emotions. This unstable mood makes them often angry with their partner for no reason. So, don't be surprised if your partner feels annoyed over time and lowers his trust in you. As a result, your relationship is in danger of being shaken.
If you are one of them, try to remind yourself that your suspicions are limited to your thoughts. Take a moment to consider the things that make you anxious and worried. Is it due to the effects of fatigue, workload, or a bad mood.
It doesn't hurt to ask a therapist for advice on cognitive and behavioral therapy. This therapy can help you reduce the effects that excessive anxiety has on your partner. You and your partner can share each other's problems and decide on the best course of action to solve them.
On the other hand, they can even avoid their partner
Meanwhile, some people with GAD can become fiercely independent and have a hobby of being alone. That is, they prefer to avoid other people. This is presumably because they are trying to control their negative emotions so that they do not affect other people.
People with excessive anxiety can become more introverted and rarely express their feelings. This actually makes them seem less empathetic and cold towards others.
If you are one of them, you may feel uncomfortable with intimacy in romantic relationships. Or it could be distrustful of whatever your partner says or does. Even when you are in trouble, you may be more restrained from speaking your way.
To overcome this, try to undergo cognitive-behavioral therapy and interpersonal-emotional process therapy. Both of these therapies can help you explore past, present, and emotional relationships. The goal is that you can find the cause of your excessive anxiety and trust your partner's presence.
Tips for overcoming the effects of excessive anxiety to maintain a harmonious relationship
In stressful or uncertain situations, anxiety is normal. However, for people who have GAD or an anxiety disorder, you need help from others to control your anxiety. For example a therapist or mental health specialist (psychiatrist).
Medications that may be prescribed to help calm your anxiety include selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRI) and serotonin-norepinephrine reuptake inhibitors (SNRI). The calming effect of the drug can help you think more clearly and be more stable.
The most important thing is support from family and loved ones, especially your partner. People who experience excessive anxiety need motivation from their partner. Do these tips with your partner to make it easier for you to reduce the effects of excessive anxiety, including:
1. Find the cause of anxiety
Anxiety can be caused due to past experiences, future predictions, or current worries. Well, try to find the cause of your anxiety. For example, what you want or need from your current partner and what solutions you and your partner want.
2. Practice listening
This method can help you improve passive or aggressive communication patterns in your relationship over the years. Communicate and talk from heart to heart so that you and your partner share the problems they are experiencing.
3. Think only of positive things
When filled with worry, it becomes very easy for you to ignore the positive things around you. Therefore, try to bring positive thoughts to your partner by believing it wholeheartedly.
