The phenomenon of 'bucin' aka slave love from a psychological side

The term 'bucin' aka 'love slave' is quite popular in Indonesia. The bucin phenomenon describes someone who is crazy about their own partner to be able to do anything to make the person they love happy. As ridiculous as it may sound, it turns out that there is a psychological explanation for why someone becomes 'bucin'.

Psychological explanations for the 'bucin' phenomenon

The use of the term 'bucin' has been used lately for people who seem too affectionate towards people they like. In fact, there is a reason why this person is willing to sacrifice for the happiness of his partner to an extreme degree.

From a psychological point of view, love slaves are a psychological condition that is said to be similar to addicts. That is, people who are included in the "bucin" group are addicted to the romantic relationship that is being lived with their partner.

This is proven through research that has been published in journals Philosophy, Psychiatry, & Psychology. In the study, it was shown that love can make someone addicted.

Although the nature of love and addiction is sometimes inexplicable, there are two views that divide this addiction into good and bad.

Generally, the phenomenon of "bucin" is considered a form of love that is quite extreme, which has the potential to lead to dangerous behavior. However, the level of addiction to love certainly has normal limits, so that some behaviors can be considered safe.

The reason the slave of love is considered addictive

One thing to remember is that the phenomenon of bucin or addiction to love has not been categorized as an official diagnosis of health problems. However, some experts consider the term love addiction to be useful for understanding patterns and behaviors in troubled relationships.

According to research from the journal Frontiers Psychology, romantic love is described as a natural addiction. When you fall in love, euphoria, addictions, and addiction-related behaviors emerge.

This can happen because the dopamine in your brain is activated by love and this condition can also occur when someone consumes an addictive substance. However, the researchers emphasize that the behavior of these love slaves is only similar in terms of their psychological condition, not behavior or chemistry.

Not always the behavior resulting from the bucin phenomenon is considered bad as long as it is within normal limits. For example, a "love addiction" that is considered normal may apply in some situations, such as unrequited love or understanding of boundaries.

Therefore, some people consider that sincere affection for a partner with a slave of love has a slight difference.

Signs of 'bucin' to watch out for

Although it is not considered a mental condition, the phenomenon of bucin sometimes has a negative impact on a person's life. Here are some traits you need to be aware of when you are labeled as addicted to love or seen in other people's relationships.

1. Must always be in love

One of the characteristics of the bucin phenomenon that you need to watch out for is that you feel that you have to keep falling in love. That is, you always want to feel happy when you first fall in love with your partner.

This condition can occur because when someone falls in love, dopamine and other happy hormones are activated, causing quite high euphoria.

This phenomenon is common when you are just in a relationship, so it's no surprise that people will want to feel those feelings again and again.

This addiction to happiness actually makes some people want to always feel love at the beginning of a relationship. In fact, not a few of them don't want to stay in a relationship for too long for fear of their love fading.

As a result, this behavior will certainly hurt other people who may want to stay and don't know the purpose of the relationship you built in the first place.

2. Continue to crave one-sided love

Apart from having to always fall in love, the “bucin” phenomenon that needs more attention is constantly craving one-sided love. This situation applies to those who are still making an approach or are in a relationship.

For example, you may find it difficult move on although they broke up for a long time or were too fixated on their loved ones, they did not reciprocate.

For those in a relationship, perhaps the term love slave is more appropriate when the person is trapped in a fantasy of the relationship. Couples become center of their world and you can't stop thinking about it.

Meanwhile, your partner starts to shy away and feels that you are too dependent on the relationship to make you uncomfortable. The more your partner pulls away, the more "inflamed" you may become to become obsessed with the relationship.

3. Must always be in a relationship

For those who are still trapped in a love addiction badly enough, it sometimes takes someone else to build their self-esteem. When you find it difficult to love yourself or find your own happiness, then finding someone to meet that need is finally done.

The need to stay in a relationship, no matter who the partner is, will certainly end more easily. What's more, when you're trying to stay in an unhealthy relationship because you don't want to be single again.

You continue to provide reasons why the relationship can be maintained even if it is unrealistic or panic when you think about ending the relationship. Of course this greatly affects the quality of one's life when a love addict has gone too far.

4. Relationship patterns are always the same

For those who fall into the 'bucin' phenomenon category what needs to be watched out for is being in relationships that often break up and come back again. Some people may feel that this can fulfill their addiction to their partner.

You see, your body may release endorphins and dopamine early in the day, which make you happy. Meanwhile, a breakup can lead to deep depression. When this happens to people with certain personalities, they feel attracted to relationships roller coaster and find it hard to get out of this pattern.

As a result, it is not uncommon for this cycle of off-and-on relationships to affect your ability to break up and possibly be impulsive.

Tips for overcoming excessive love addiction

The first step that can be taken to overcome the excessive bucin phenomenon behavior is to identify the problem. This method is also used when fighting addiction to anything.

The recovery process will be quite difficult as you may face trauma or pain in the past that has not been resolved. However, effort and intention will not betray and can lead to a healthy, truly satisfying relationship.

Try the following steps.

• Look at the relationship from a more realistic side.
• Try not to connect with other people for a while.
• Practice loving yourself.

If the three steps above have been tried and have not worked, you may consider consulting a psychologist. Consulting a psychologist or therapist will at least help you deal with the unresolved pain.