Table of contents:
- Various problems that can damage household intimacy
- 1. Ignorant of appearance
- 2. Sex is only for special days
- 3. Too many demands
- 4. Fake orgasm
- 5. Stuck in a routine
- 6. Skipping sex just because it's "not in the mood"
- 7. Avoid the topic of sex in the conversation together
Research confirms that a satisfying sex life is one of the main keys to a lasting marriage. Yes, in honeymoon times, it's not hard to feel sexy and passionate - but over the years, the bed can get more and more complicated. To help you and your partner continue to be able to maintain household intimacy, avoid the following mistakes.
Various problems that can damage household intimacy
1. Ignorant of appearance
Ignoring your appearance isn't just about the natural physical changes caused by aging, or the extra pound-two pounds on the scale. It is even more so for you who stop making the effort to get extra dressed and groom yourself for your partner's sake. Make no mistake, your partner is actually very aware, you know, when you do this. Being ignorant of your appearance gives the impression that you don't care anymore to spoil your partner's eyes.
But this is not just for the sake of pleasing your partner; taking care of yourself makes you comfortable in your own body. In addition, your libido will depend a lot on your body's overall health. Therefore, exercise! Every now and then, get a hair and beard cut, it's okay to dress up and wear nice clothes even if you're just relaxing at home. Do whatever makes you feel sexy and he is guaranteed to glance.
2. Sex is only for special days
If you want to have a satisfying sex life, you have to prioritize sex with other important aspects of your life. For example, you can spend time with sports, friends, work, and children. Now you also need to spend time alone with your partner in the room.
Not that you have to enter a special schedule for sex, but at least you will be able to steal time to feel sexy, intimate, and continue to enrich your relationship with him. Instead of thinking of scheduled sex as an activity that seems obligatory and unromantic, think about waiting for the D-day as a better way to play out all your fantasies. Send sexy chats, for example, or plan what to wear, and so on. Scheduling sex may conflict with spontaneity, but it can work.
3. Too many demands
Men always misunderstand that sex in pornographic films reflects sex in real life, even though it is very different. There is nothing wrong with watching porn occasionally to help arouse your sexual desires, but don't assume that just because you see actresses and actors engaging in extreme sex sessions, that this is also what your partner wants. Often times women don't want to feel obligated to look and look like adult film actors. Porn movies are unrealistic, and these aggressive actions can cause pain and discomfort. So it's no wonder more and more women are "giving up" and choosing to fake orgasms.
Let your partner know how to satisfy each other. It's okay to have very specific and concrete discussions; what you like and what he doesn't. But, on the other hand, respect the fact that just because you are excited doesn't mean that he is willing and willing to grant your request. Men have the right to complain about being tired, stressed, not in the mood or interested, or maybe feeling so insecure that they just want to cuddle; so are women. However, if you want to try to ignite her passion, remember that foreplay and seduction are just as effective for men as they are for women.
4. Fake orgasm
Women aren't the only ones who excel at fake orgasms. More than 25 percent of men admit that they sometimes pretend to be too. We fake orgasms for a variety of reasons, and this may be leading your partner down the wrong path.
While you may not mean it badly, over time this can become a bad habit that leads to mistrust, anger, and hatred. Still, it's easier to open up and talk about what's going on under the covers. To break out of your pretense, you have to find out what you really like, and learn to focus on your own pleasure first.
5. Stuck in a routine
Sometimes sex can be so familiar that just closing your eyes will tell you what your partner is going to do next. You and your partner know each other's stimulation points, what kind of maneuvers can bring about an orgasm quickly, and so on. On the one hand, there is nothing wrong with this; go ahead with this satisfying sex session. However, it is not uncommon for couples to turn around in the same routine, so that sex is no longer as hot as it used to be. They just aren't sure whether to change, are afraid to hurt their partner's feelings, and don't know how to change it.
Humans tend to like a mixture of predictable things and new things that are surprises. Be open with your partner to be able to express yourself sexually in a variety of ways, but you also have to find the right balance between being adventurous and being "safe". Don't be so conventional that sex becomes boring. But don't go too wild to lose the intimacy or comfort level of the two of you. This can mean anything from a new sex position, to the posture and body language you bring to bed.
Something simple but spontaneous, such as moving to the living room, kitchen, or bathroom can add a coveted spice of passion (but don't forget to leave the child with her uncle and aunt so they don't catch the two of you in the act!). Or, you might as well leave the house, for example, renting a room at a hotel. "Many couples report that they have satisfying sex when they are not at home," said Dr. Zdrok Wilson, quoted from Women's Day.
6. Skipping sex just because it's "not in the mood"
Indeed, it is normal for you or your partner to feel unwell, stressed, or not in the mood to have sex. On the other hand, if you wait for the perfect time to make love until you are fit and have plenty of time, your schedule of intimate sessions may not be real for years to come. In addition, for many people, especially women, desire comes after passion, not vice versa. This means that once your body shows a sign or two of sexual arousal, you may find yourself wanting sex more than you think.
Just be spontaneous and do it. Maybe you will feel relieved when you do. If you are completely preoccupied with other office and household routines, in no time, you can still do quickie. Even the briefest sexual contact can strengthen the relationship between you and your partner and can relieve stress in your marriage. Sex also helps release endorphins and dopamine, serotonin, and other brain chemicals that can help you manage stress and help you sleep better.
7. Avoid the topic of sex in the conversation together
To have a great sex life, you have to talk about activity in bed. And while sex is easier than talking about, these awkward conversations are essential to a hot sex life. No one expert can tell you what sex is right for you or your partner, except for both of you. As such, the only way to know is to talk openly about your wishes and concerns.
If you feel like your home life and bedroom are full of problems, this is the time for you to speak up. Your partner is not an expert mind reader, and neither are you. Follow these three steps to make it easier to start this difficult conversation: compliment, listen, share. And remember that you don't have to go through these three steps at once.
Sincerely listening to your partner, embracing their weaknesses and worries, and empathizing with their needs can be the main keys to a husband and wife's longevity. Quality relationships not only require a satisfying sex life, but also a strong emotional bond outside the bed.
