Table of contents:
- The most common reason people lie
- 1. Lying for good
- 2. Accustomed to lying
- 3. It's uncomfortable not to lie
- 4. To cover up the previous lie
- 5. Lie when you don't intend to lie
- 6. Passive-aggressive lying to reflect desires
It seemed as if there was not a single person in this world who had never lied. The fact is, it's not enough for people to lie. There are various reasons for this. The most classic, though, is because they think it's better to lie than to hurt other people. But it turns out that there are many other reasons for lying that often come out of the mouths of many people, maybe including you too.
The most common reason people lie
1. Lying for good
Lying for the sake of kindness is the most common reason lying comes out of the mouths of many people because of an act that seems noble. You choose to cover up the bitter truth, rather than having to see those closest to you hurt if you learn the facts.
But, did you know that they actually prefer to be disappointed to hear the bitter truth rather than feel happy because of something fictional? After all, this fictional thing will eventually get caught and in the end it will still be disappointing as well.
2. Accustomed to lying
Many people continue to lie because they think that lies are not something that is wrong or should be exaggerated. They do not think that telling lies will have a bad domino effect, because it is precisely what has to be covered up that is the problem. That's why they don't have a problem if they have to lie about it so they don't get caught up in other problems.
3. It's uncomfortable not to lie
Over time, the habit of lying will make the liar feel proud of his skill in crafting boasting that has deceived many people. This confidence is what then encourages him to continue lying with other new boasting. In the end, they will continue to lie because it makes them feel good.
4. To cover up the previous lie
Once you lie, you inevitably have to prepare your next lie to support the storyline of boasting to make it sound plausible. Whatever your previous reasons for lying, this chain reaction will almost always occur. The reason is, when the lie appears, it is likely that your colleague will ask other questions related to it. Finally, your brain returns to making new lies. Over time, the lies you will make more and more.
5. Lie when you don't intend to lie
When you are faced with a problem that gets out of hand, it's natural to feel stressed. Starting from a mixture of anxiety, fear and panic, heavy sweating, heart palpitations, and so on.
This natural stress response then triggers another response, namely the response "how do I get out of this problem quickly without a problem". One way is to lie. Yes, your brain will quickly give suggestions and find the fastest way to say fictional things, so you can quickly get out of the situation.
6. Passive-aggressive lying to reflect desires
There are people who lie when asked by friends or relatives about their personal life. Familiar with this kind of kebohoan, "Oh sorry, my boyfriend didn't come because he was chasing a project overseas" - even though, he just got dumped because of an affair?
The reason for lying as above may be based on personal dissatisfaction with what he has or gets at that time, so lying is used as a way to "beautify" his life so that people who hear him are amazed or like him. In fact, behind the lie is actually a big dream. The desire to have a life as he described as a lie.
Of all these reasons for lying, let's answer the truth, which one do you often use when lying?
