Table of contents:
- An important factor in creating a healthy relationship
- 1. We both want to care and be involved
- 2. Honest and open communication
- 3. Not demanding
- 4. Respect each other
Every couple who is in love want to have a healthy relationship. However, to achieve it cannot be for free. It takes a long effort and struggle from both parties if you want your love affair to be kept away from the tempest of conflict so that it will last long into old age. Do you know what the key is to maintaining a cool, calm and harmonious relationship?
An important factor in creating a healthy relationship
Some of the following should be included in a healthy relationship with a partner:
1. We both want to care and be involved
A relationship that is always healthy, lasting, and harmonious must be strengthened by an inner bond between you and your partner.
Explained further by Dr. Sue Johnson, a clinical psychologist in the United States, a relationship can be prone to wavering and breaking apart without the same strong bond between the two of you. Just imagine a bridge that stretches over the water surface. If only one side is strong, the bridge will break easily over time because it is not supported by the opposite side.
Likewise with relationships. The two parties involved in a relationship must be equally willing to sacrifice for each other, must be willing to care for each other, and must be equally willing to be involved in all aspects ranging from trivial to complex things, to maintain that love affair.
2. Honest and open communication
Communication and openness are the keys to a lasting, harmonious relationship that is far from conflict. Even a small lie that seems trivial at first can be disastrous if either party finds out. Likewise with keeping secrets from your partner, for whatever reason. This is because it means you don't trust your partner completely.
So from the start, all the grievances that are in the heart should be expressed and discussed privately with a cold head to find the best solution.
3. Not demanding
Every human being is a unique individual who has different characteristics from one another. So if you are ready to have a love affair with someone, it means that you also have to be ready with all the strengths and weaknesses of that person.
But of course this means that you are not "legowo" and just accept to tolerate the traits of a partner who is not good. The reason is, his bad qualities can also affect the course of your relationship.
The solution returns to point number 2, namely by speaking well. Don't do anything yet. You immediately demand your partner to change. Communicating helps find solutions that are mutually comfortable for you and your partner, and then learn to deal with them together.
In essence, partners should not only share their joys but also in grief.
4. Respect each other
A healthy relationship involves two people who are just and equally strong, like a partnership. There should be no one person who is higher in rank or feels more special than the other. No one party should feel aggrieved.
Mutual respect can be shown by taking “small” actions such as admitting mistakes, apologizing for mistakes, and thanking all the good things your partner has done for you. This indirectly shows that you appreciate him so that it makes your partner feel appreciated for his existence. He will also be motivated to always try to pamper you.
Healthy relationships must also be free from all kinds of terror of physical violence, sexual violence, and emotional violence such as degrading and abusing a partner's self-esteem.
