Table of contents:
- What is verbal abuse?
- 1. Withhold certain information
- 2. Rebutted
- 3. Deny
- 4. Violence with the cover of a joke
- 5. Dominate the conversation without giving in
- 6. Accusing and blaming
- 7. Underestimating and condescending
- 8. Swearing and insulting
- 9. Threatening
- 10. Governing
- 11. Defend yourself even when you are wrong
- 12. Snarl
In everyday life, violence takes on many forms. The easiest to identify is physical violence. However, apart from physical violence, there are other forms of violence that are no less sadistic and deserve to be watched out for, namely verbal abuse. This form of violence is often not realized by both the perpetrator and the victim.
What is verbal abuse?
While verbal abuse does not leave visible scars, this form of violence is as painful as physical abuse. Numerous studies have shown that victims of verbal abuse can experience serious psychological trauma. In addition, this violence is also very likely to destroy the relationship between the couple. So what are the signs of verbal abuse? Look carefully at the following twelve types.
1. Withhold certain information
Just keeping quiet and keeping certain information from your partner is also violence. The reason is, this is always done on purpose so that the victim feels helpless.
For example, you purposely didn't say that you were going to come home at night so your partner still prepares food and waits for you to come home as usual.
2. Rebutted
Distinguish between constant arguing and arguing. Every now and then, arguing is normal and healthy in a relationship. It means that you both convey each other's point of view without being hurtful.
Whereas a partner who always contradicts your words is meant to discourage you. Suppose you both eat at a restaurant. You praise the delicious food, but your partner immediately argues and says the food is not good.
3. Deny
Deny here means not acknowledging your feelings or opinions. For example, you might ask your partner to accompany you to an event because they really want to go out together. However, your partner even criticized your partner by calling you spoiled and selfish.
4. Violence with the cover of a joke
Your partner may hurt your feelings with his words, and then when he sees your reaction, he will argue that he was just kidding. This is always used as a justification for speaking harshly or harassing you.
5. Dominate the conversation without giving in
Couples who dominate the conversation tend to determine what topics are discussed and what are not. For example, if you start talking about things that are of interest to you, he will ignore them and immediately start talking about topics he finds more useful.
6. Accusing and blaming
It is different from giving constructive criticism, accusing and blaming it to corner you more. In fact, your partner blames you for things that are really out of your control.
For example, when your partner is late for work. He may blame you for being slow to drive. In fact, at that time the road conditions were indeed more congested than usual.
7. Underestimating and condescending
Constantly humiliating a partner is a form of violence that is so hidden. This is because the perpetrator does not need to yell loudly or raise his voice to do this. For example, when you complain about being busy at the office. Your partner may respond with harsh words such as, “Are you staying up late again? You don't have much workload. In my office, things like that would be done in less than a day. "
8. Swearing and insulting
Swearing and insulting is a type of violence with serious consequences. For example, insulting a partner with harsh words such as stupid, cheesy, liar, or crazy.
9. Threatening
Threats are a type of verbal abuse that can be traumatic. For example, threatening to leave a partner if he does not comply with his wishes. Or in severe cases, threatening to hit or hurt their partner.
10. Governing
Suing, prohibiting, limiting, and bossing around your partner may become your habit. In fact, this can make your partner depressed. Examples include prohibiting a partner from working late at night or ordering a partner to go home right now while working late at the office.
11. Defend yourself even when you are wrong
The person who always defends himself always refuses to be blamed, even though at the time he is in the wrong. If your partner always stands up for himself and makes excuses when talking to you, he may have been abusing you all this time.
12. Snarl
The easiest type of verbal abuse to recognize is yelling. Yelling, scolding, or yelling at someone can indeed traumatize the victim mentally. Remember, no one really deserves to be yelled at or yelled at, even if it's wrong.
